The reality (or the reality I accept) is that 95 percent of our fan base and 95 percent of yours (and probably 95 percent of the Ute fan base) would get along very well in most social settings and even watching our teams compete. There are 5 percent of fans in every fan base that make the rest of us look like idiots.
Our fans (Mormons generally) have a persecution complex that is easy to fall back on in times of rejection, even if it has no basis in reality. This complex, along with some fans who make "holier than thou" comments, makes it very easy for other fans to dislike BYU. I love BYU the institution, but fans from all schools are an embarrassment at time.