My brother is one of those "menaces to societies;" he's 28 and unmarried. As a family we try to stay out of his personal affairs. We've always assumed that when he found the right one, he would move fast on it. As it turns out, he's moving a little too fast.

He has known a girl for a few years, but they never dated or anything. I guess last week she came over to visit and they ended up spending all day together. By the end of the night he had proposed, and now they are getting married the 1st week of July. I'm sincerely happy for him, but I want to share a few words of warning.

See, I got married over similar circumstances. I met my wife when a group of girls came to visit my roommate one Friday night. I ended up speaking to her all night, and continued that conversation the entire weekend. Things seemed to just click. That Sunday night I proposed. Because the new semester was soon approaching, she encouraged us to get married the following month, which rendered our courtship about 3 weeks long. Now I love my wife, and we've mostly had a good marriage, but we got pregnant immediately. Probably on our wedding night. Unfortunately, our child, although healthy, was significantly premature. This only gave us only about 6 months to really get to know each other. It certainly changes the dynamics of the relationship.

So how do I tell my bro to take things slow? And, once he's married, to maybe wait on having kids so that he and his wife can really get to know each other?