The problem is the more I push BYU I am seen as " the controlling Dad"and the more push back I get in return. I know it is her decision, and I know how strong headed and independent she is- so I have pretty much said all I can and have taken her on two "recruiting" trips (playing FSU in '10 (debacle) and VA this past year. Best I can tell she's afraid everyone there are like mormon cyborgs and that she will have to assimilate to survive banishment. I tell here that's not true BUT in back of my mind I remember there was at least some truth too it back bw '85-92', ("How Great Thou Art" second verse - love it) . I graduated, but my hair was a little long and I seldon wore socks with my sperrys . I was bad.

She was raised to hate the noles so that's prob off the table. Florida is a good school but also is a PARTY school ( what're ever ASU) which would not be good for her. She hasn't had issues with substance abuse but has had other issues and fratboys and alcohol just would be a BAD BAD combo for her, like 99% of all our young women. Her mother is a convert and likes BYU and wants her to go there but we are limited with our influence. I'm not above bribes/ incentives within reason. Advice?