But that doesn't mean we won't change our mind. That is one part we really haven't researched much and we will make that discussion carefully.

My sister put her baby up for adoption when she was 16 and it worked out really well that it was closed. When the baby turned 18, she sought out my sister and they have been friends ever since.

I worry that an open adoption will cause the child to feel like they aren't really part of our family. But I know very little on the topic and I have a lot to learn still.