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Nov 19, 2017
9:36:01am
The Dude Abides The royal we.
I’m responding outside the religious category as my post is not religious in nature. Soupie, I see what you are saying.
A lot of it makes perfect sense and of course we should all be kind to each other. I’ll say this, though. A message board is very different (as far as entertainment is concerned) than everyday life. Being polite and holding hands and basking in the goodness of one another is quite simply not a recipe for success on CB. The fact people feel like they can be honest and actually have real heated discussions is what makes this board interesting for everyone. Even the ones who cry about someone being mean. They also give as good as they get. The difference is they hate it when they are on the receiving end of someone getting a bit salty where others let it roll off their back.

Patting each other on the backs and saying “great post. I agree. Thanks for your contribution to this board” is what we all do in our jobs and personal interactions with others every day because we wouldn’t get very far if we told people what we really think. It creates no drama and the world (especially this little digital CB world) lives for changes of emotion. Disagreement and honesty creates drama that humans tend to gravitate to. Even those who say “I hate drama” live for dramatic moments. It’s why people like to come to the site. It’s not for the pats on the back. It’s because you know you’ll have some people willing to discuss various topics and sometimes you agree and sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you cross paths with people you never agree with and they get upset at things you say. Sometimes you interact with FO and you all laugh about stupid things other people have said while those same people all laugh about stupid things you’ve said.

Let’s look at this honestly and objectively. Harassment and truly disparaging comments get deleted. Uncivil comments get deleted. Usually that poster gets suspended for having done it. What stays on the board is never cutting remarks. It’s often contrast in opinions and some people getting annoyed that their viewpoint isn’t being shared or at the very least understood. That’s often the interesting stuff! Debate and even heated disagreement is interesting. No one can deny that. There is VERY little that stays on the board that anyone should consider bullying or even attacking another poster.

I agree. Let’s all be kinder to each other. Great message. But we don’t need a talk by someone to change a culture here. The world is made up of people who can handle debate and even arguments and people who are uncomfortable with it. Always will be. Disagreements and even arguments and even sometime the occasional “are you really that dense?” type of comment will occur and that’s what makes this board fun for a LOT of people whether they realize it or not. “Oh that’s a great opinion! Thank you for sharing but let me counter with a suggestion if I may?” is not real and it’s often not honest in moments of disagreement because you know that person is actually thinking “are you kidding me??? How can you believe such a thing, you idiot!!”

People are wanting to “fix the board” when the board isn’t broken. Yesterday happened because some people don’t like thinking someone who they ignored is posting about them. Someone they chose to not see and forget about. They are worried those people are laughing at them. So Jefe (perhaps correctly) found a way to appease those people. It was beyond unnecessary in my opinion but he gets to decide how he runs his site and he chose to address ghosts in the background speaking about the living. Hopefully it makes the experience for some better. But can we please, please drop the narrative that CB is a place of harassment and mistreatment. That element gets addressed already through ignore and moderation.
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