I wish BYU approached the Honor Code like I approach raising my kids
At BYU the honor code is the all encompassing gospel that not only drives expected conduct, but fosters a culture of becoming "thy brothers keeper". I expect everyone who has dealt with single 19-24 year old male and females knows they are not much different physiologically than their non LDS peers. Upon their arrival at BYU, it is not the honor code that should hold them to a higher standard, it is their own personal standards that should. Knowing that being human, they are prone to err, the focus should be on how to recover from those mistakes and not on how awful they are for sinning. That is not the gospel of Jesus Christ, but it is the gospel at BYU. I think it should be an honor code violation to turn someone in. Where is the honor in that?
I teach my kids what the expectations are for their conduct, but I stress to them the fact they have a loving father in heaven that knows they will fall short of perfection, and will embrace them with his forgiving love if they repent.
I don't think that is how it works with the honor code at BYU...yes I know the repentance process with their leader works that way, but I hate that there are people who take joy in "catching" people and reporting them...that part has got to be done away with!