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Sep 28, 2020
10:30:11am
The Pope Playmaker
RE: Grief is such an individual thing. And often emotionally-driven and
As someone who has gone through this exact thing, let me break it down for you:

First the cuddle cot, or the logistics of it: a cuddle cot, or something like it, is basically a cold pack. It is placed in something tasteful like a basinet and slows the natural decomposition of the body. It lets the grieving family have a few more moments with their baby that has died.

Second the why: Is that weird to have a dead person in the room with you? Yes, when you think about it like that. But consider the scenario, in this case, I'll use mine. My wife goes to her last appointment with the baby at 38 weeks. Perfect pregnancy, perfectly healthy baby...until that day when for an unknown reason, the baby died.

Now instead of all the joy and excitement and relief and anticipation of the birth as you rush to the hospital, you are faced with a biggest, traumatic gut punch and a crap ton of unknowns before you.

Now instead of snuggles and enjoying the moment after a safe delivery of the baby, you get to decide things like: what mortuary service should I choose, what cemetery should I select, who should be in charge of A, B, C, D, etc. of the funeral/graveside service, what am I going to tell my kids about this, how am I going to help them process it, how am I going to help my wife, what does she even need, why did this happen, and on and on and on and on.

Yes, families are forever, but they are also right NOW. Instead of a lifetime of love to give and events to share and cherish and experience with this little one, the family gets NONE of that.

That cold pack gave my family a few extra hours to have physically with my daughter. It gave us an opportunity to have our kids see the sister they had waited many months to see. It allowed us to take pictures to remember her by. It offered a few moments of reprieve from all the decisions and questions I mentioned, to just be in the moment with her. To feel. To grieve. To bond with her.

Those few hours are literally the ONLY memories I have of my daughter. Life and society and social circles move on. But that time I had with my daughter, facilitated by a cuddle cot type device, is something I wouldn't trade for anything.

It may be weird, and I pray no one else has to EVER use a cuddle cot, but I can promise you, if you do, you'll be grateful a product like this exists and was donated to the hospital you find yourself at.
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