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Apr 7, 2021
11:29:33am

sTcCoug 3rd String

There is a great video of Dr. Manning a BYU professor and sports psychologist

Where he talks about #6, especially with youth sports, to be focused on tasks and not outcomes. This shifts the focus away from things we do not have control over (outcomes) to things we do (tasks). I coach multiple youth soccer teams and making this shift in how I coach (and parent) has resulted in a huge change for me in how I see the games and the kids (mine and the others I coach).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SalS7dlNKRU

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Don't be "that" parent at your children's games.

Coug Dude All-American

4/7/21 11:04am

[hangs head in shame]

jkccoug

4/7/21 11:05am

I don’t think your no. 3 is typical on these lists.

Joe Banks

4/7/21 11:08am

Good point, I modified #3

Coug Dude

4/7/21 11:12am

One caveat though. Parents with voices that carry need self-awareness.

Joe Banks

4/7/21 11:13am

When I've coaches youth sports teams, it's always been a rule that

Coug Dude

4/7/21 11:16am

Exactly, you are embarrassing your kid. Sports should be fun, and you are ruining it for them.

slappy

4/7/21 11:09am

We had a Dad that attended the High School Soccer games and coached his....

WJCougar

4/7/21 11:11am

With regards to refs, for young kids they are usually like HS kids reffing

A_blue_car

4/7/21 11:12am

As a teenage ref, I loved throwing flags on coaches who yelled at me. One coach

Powerbait DPM

4/7/21 5:10pm

That’s my best come back when I ref men’s basketball. I tell them if they don’t

cougsareforreal

4/8/21 9:31am

People see what they want to see. Reffing youth Lacrosse as a return missionary

Powerbait DPM

4/8/21 11:57pm

My pet peeve watching basketball is when a small guard runs full speed into a

cougsareforreal

4/9/21 8:42am

Ah, so you understand why soccer players flop. No flop = no call.

Joe Banks

4/9/21 9:04am

I think America has lost it in this regards

compcoug

4/7/21 11:15am

When my son played little league football, there was one dad...

Eddie

4/7/21 11:17am

My only issue w/ this list are numbers 4 and 6

IceBlueCoug

4/7/21 11:20am

and if that is how you feel, it's more potent to do that during practice

The Pope

4/7/21 11:28am

Why?

IceBlueCoug

4/7/21 11:32am

you don't know why practice is a more potent environment to coach kids in?

The Pope

4/7/21 12:59pm

It's not your job to tell them to be more aggressive during the game

Alpi Gusto

4/7/21 11:49am

Keep that in mind when my son is starting and your kid is in the stands

IceBlueCoug

4/7/21 12:22pm

Oh, I don't have kids. This is coming from a coach. Keep in mind that you probably don't know as much as you think

Alpi Gusto

4/7/21 12:25pm

It depends on how you do it.

IceBlueCoug

4/7/21 12:30pm

I’ll keep that in mind when my kid is still playing and your kid quit.

Bin01015

4/8/21 8:28am

I agree here. Depending on the sport, you may not want to be more aggressive

Thrill

4/7/21 2:27pm

As a parent I know my kid and what he is capable of and the style that best suits him and his team

IceBlueCoug

4/7/21 2:30pm

I'm sure you are a great coach then. Kudos to you. I am not clairvoyant so

Thrill

4/7/21 2:32pm

2 rules that I live by

HiLife

4/7/21 11:28am

There is a great video of Dr. Manning a BYU professor and sports psychologist

sTcCoug

4/7/21 11:29am

Thumbs up. Yes, yes and yes to everything you said.

RockyBalboa

4/7/21 11:48am

Can I add two more to your list? (1) Don't talk to coaches about other players on the team and (2) On higher level teams

Alpi Gusto

4/7/21 11:57am

Totally agree. Tough lessons to learn. (For me.)

Boomcannon

4/7/21 1:25pm

8. Don't complain about the ref after the game as a reason for a loss. YES it

Thrill

4/7/21 2:31pm

^this... we don't allow complaining about the refs in our house... not in games we play in and not in games we watch.

HarlemCoug

4/7/21 3:44pm

My wife would always say to the kids that the ref is part of the game.

Joe Banks

4/7/21 3:47pm

This should be universally understood, yet it still happens.

ditch

4/7/21 2:49pm

I grumble from time to time during football games, but I walk away from crowd

Belboz

4/7/21 3:38pm

You can add this one. Do not sign your kid up for another parent/volunteer to

777

4/7/21 4:00pm

Every kid needs to have access to sports. Especially those kids.

Joe Banks

4/7/21 4:18pm

Uh...no. There are school programs for that with paid faculty. If your child is

777

4/7/21 4:25pm

Rec leagues are perfect for those type of kids. They usually need an outlet and sports are the perfect outlet

IceBlueCoug

4/7/21 4:59pm

Except there is literally no other way to get your point across to the ref

gilmerbuckeye

4/8/21 1:40am

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