...is also necessary sometimes.

We have told our kids that we are there to help and support them. None who have moved out have attempted to move back in - but we've told them we are a safety net and there if they need us. However - if they ever consider moving in, they also need to come with a clear plan as to what it will take to move back out. Moving in is temporary.

When we first got married my mom told us that she was the grandma, not the daycare provider. She would be happy to babysit on occasion and even take the kids if we go on a trip - but she won't ever be caring for them regularly so that both of us can go to work.

And she was pretty strict with that rule right up until my sister got divorced and found herself with a limited single income and 2 children to provide for. Suddenly grandma is the one caring for the kids every day after school and through the summer. I don't care - my sister needs the help and I get it that circumstances change. I guess I'm just saying it's easy to think you have a hard and fast rule about something until you're in a situation that challenges that rule.