The BVI and I remember feeling like you did at times on the trip. But my kids talked about it forever as their favorite vacation. My daughter took her 3 young kids on a cruise and made the comment that she didn’t think a cruise would be so much work. Anything with kids is work. But the memories you create can be amazing. I love looking back at all our pictures on trips. Sure we had struggles like you but I choose to focus on the good times. Keep working to find what works the best for your family and remember it will never go smoothly but try to make the best of it.