that will almost inevitably start conversations that will end up trashing the kid?

Seriously, let it go. You aren't starting a meaningful debate here. You're essentially just making a claim that can't be challenged without hurting the recruit. Just let it go. If you feel the coaches suck and you have to make your point, do it with another recruit. Criticize the coaches about Empey or Tafua or Mama or someone else. Just let this one go.