Hopefully nothing I said gave the impression that I feel otherwise. I certainly wouldn't continue to help if I felt it was a waste of time; but I do because I feel like if nothing else it's good for me to serve. My points were simply a synopsis of opinions from lessons learned that can make moves more manageable and positive for everyone.

You are right on that it's nice to be helped because you have friends from day one. Our reception was like family A you described When we moved to TN 3 years ago, there was one guy from the ward show up 2 hours after my nephew and I had started unloading our truck. There were literally 18 inches of space in the truck left to unload. This after calling the EQP two weeks previous to let them know when we'd arrive and to say we'd love it if he'd be willing to spread word so anyone who was free (or could make time) and wanted to help could come. Word apparently went out; however, it didn't bother me when there was really no response. It was my responsibility and it was a Friday evening - only time we could get an available interstate truck - so I had no expectations for help. In fact, I was happy when we had an extra set of hands for the last few boxes and washing machine. It also didn't bother me to go to church not knowing anyone two days later as we make efforts to be outgoing and introduce ourselves. But I know that's not the case for everyone.

I've seen the family B cases also when a new arrival calls and a big group is there. Two months back we had a guy who just bought a practice move into our ward; his 4 kids spent maybe 6 hours at our home with our 5 kids while 7 or 8 guys unloaded his truck and he and his wife took time to organize the big things. I think they appreciated the help and she appreciated having someone she could feel comfortable watching her kids from the get go. This happens often and it does build immediate friendships...a great benefit of "Mormon moves". It's a great way to build brotherhood - the "service organization" and "brotherhood" aspects of priesthood service Elder Haight talked about years ago. And it's even a great way to reach out to less actives and show them "yeah, we care even though we may never see you in church".