What do you mean without your influence? I think number one and number three are the same, unless in number one you are meaning coercing him into a mission, or number three mean you recuse yourself from being a father if he becomes a good athlete, and move out of the house and away from the family.

I think that by number 3 you meant, I believe I have taught you to the best of my ability to make your own decisions and live by the consequences there of. Good luck, I will support you in your right to choose your own way. (I picked number 3 with this proviso)