Yeah, I was mostly conceding that it's her body, so she can decide whether she

May 4, 2015
3:02:55pm

benny1982

wants to go through the pain or have medication--I can suggest, but it's not ultimately up to me. The baby, on the other hand, isn't hers alone, so why should she be able to make the decision of how it's cared for during birth by herself?

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Yeah, telling women how to give birth is a great idea. Let me know how that

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:36pm

^^^Found one!^^^ So do you do the tub or an inflatable pool? Eat the placenta?

Epileptic Beagle

5/4/15 2:37pm

None of the above. But nice try.

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:38pm

Pickled placenta on crackers is unbelievable.

mulletYno

5/4/15 3:29pm

Why shouldn't the father get a say in how his child is brought into the world?

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:39pm

Is this a trick question?

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 2:41pm

Are you married?

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:42pm

Married with six children actually. This topic hits very close to home for me

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:46pm

So did your MIL win?

WDaddy

5/4/15 2:47pm

No she did not. My background is a little unique. My dad was the head guy for

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:52pm

"they agreed"? meaning your wife and your MIL?

El Pasco

5/4/15 2:56pm

sorry, "they" should be "we"

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:04pm

yeah, I imagine losing a baby could be a buzzkill to the whole "birthing

CougarTwins

5/4/15 2:57pm

Almost lost our first child. Probably would have if we tried doing it at home. I

db59840

5/4/15 3:26pm

How did your MIL take it?

Mister P

5/4/15 3:05pm

Once my wife explained that we arrived at the decision mutually she dropped the

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:14pm

When I passed a kidney stone, I probably asked my wife's

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 2:48pm

Epidural? Wife's decision. Home v. hospital? How could it not involve both?

benny1982

5/4/15 2:48pm

Try telling your wife how it is and let me know the result.

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:49pm

^^^Has fallen for the men are sperm donors lie.

Mister P

5/4/15 2:50pm

The thing is, we are absolutely a team on everything else. But birth? Nope.

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:53pm

So when it comes to the health of your child and safety during childbirth, you

Mister P

5/4/15 2:55pm

Mister P, Buddy . . . you're conflating too many different things

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 3:00pm

I think we are talking about two different things.

Mister P

5/4/15 3:03pm

Your 3rd sentence is why I will not be taking your advice on

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 2:53pm

And you equated a baby to a kidney stone...

benny1982

5/4/15 2:57pm

Please don't knock my collection . . . I've birthed each

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 3:04pm

And I'm assuming they're starting to look more like you with age?

benny1982

5/4/15 3:06pm

RE: Your 3rd sentence is why I will not be taking your advice on

Mister P

5/4/15 2:58pm

How else do you explain Utah baby names?

Mister P

5/4/15 2:56pm

Touche! Although, it's funny . . . I think

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 3:06pm

You poor soul.

benny1982

5/4/15 2:52pm

So... you've done that?

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:53pm

What? Discussed how our babies were going to be born? Yes.

benny1982

5/4/15 2:56pm

If she was dead set on a home birth, what would you do?

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:57pm

We'd at least talk about it and pray about it together.

benny1982

5/4/15 3:00pm

So you'd completely change your own opinion? Or you'd bite the bullet

SandYFan

5/4/15 3:03pm

I say "if" b/c you asked a hypothetical that won't happen.

benny1982

5/4/15 3:05pm

I agree with this mostly. We have big babies. Our smallest was just under

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:59pm

Yeah, I was mostly conceding that it's her body, so she can decide whether she

benny1982

5/4/15 3:02pm

So how did it go with the MIL and your six births?

Mister P

5/4/15 2:48pm

I would have told her to pound sand. She sounds horrible.

Epileptic Beagle

5/4/15 2:57pm

You should have been there when we discussed vaccinations.

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:01pm

Go on...

benny1982

5/4/15 3:03pm

There's too much to talk about. I've thought about writing a book about my

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:16pm

What are they going to do?

SandYFan

5/4/15 3:19pm

The Church doesn't budge on vaccinations. They had to get them.

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:30pm

That's gotta hurt their testimonies.

SandYFan

5/4/15 3:33pm

Because the father's not pushing a 7-pound baby out of his birth canal

SoCalCoug

5/4/15 2:56pm

All decision on birth ultimately should be made by the woman, IMO. But I think

SPORTS

5/4/15 2:56pm

epidural is a smaller thing. the biggest thing is that its in a hospital with a

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