abuse where it doesn't exist. My wife has scars up and down her arms from meltdowns. But she's also been looked at funny for restraining the kid to protect herself/others during a meltdown. I'm pretty sure she's even had DCFS called on her at least once.

Now, calling names and striking is not acceptable to me. If a parent can't be the adult, that is a problem. And there is a difference between pulling and yanking.