This is the right answer or teach him to ignore bullies. The best thing a kid can learn is to not let the actions

Dec 4, 2019
10:31:37pm

Soupie Grandma Sycamore

or words of others dictate their life. There will always be mean people but you still choose whether to let them dictate your life. It's the most underutilized response to bullying yet would be the most powerful.

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my son doesn’t want to go to school tomorrow - what should I do?

aaronmania

12/4/19 9:59pm

Take the day off and go have fun with your son.

rocker

12/4/19 10:01pm

That’s what you do when he’s 8. At 12, he probably should learn to handle it.

dchandle15

12/4/19 11:57pm

Do you have a 12+ year old boy?

Division Bell

12/5/19 12:28am

I don’t. But I’ve worked at DCFS and in adolescent psych units.

dchandle15

12/5/19 12:44am

That's good. Sincerely.

Division Bell

12/5/19 1:00am

Until the official "How to be a parent" manual comes out, I don't mind advice.

Breaded Hamster

12/5/19 1:05am

IOW, every child is unique.

Division Bell

12/5/19 1:08am

I believe we adapt correct principles with each child but that shouldn't mean we abandon the principle.

Soupie

12/5/19 11:07am

I completely agree. I took issue with his original assertion to just send the

Division Bell

12/5/19 12:13pm

Not the same at all

LDTemplar

12/5/19 10:59am

Whaaaaat? “Why did Jimmy miss school today?” “Well BYU lost so...”

The Dude Abides

12/5/19 9:22am

He went to school with his Y sweatshirt. Read below...

Benfica1

12/5/19 10:13am

I replied to rocker saying he should keep his kid out of school.

The Dude Abides

12/5/19 11:03am

🙂

Benfica1

12/5/19 11:46am

Where do you live? I have nieces and nephews that have been in tears

SaintGeorgeYFan

12/4/19 10:01pm

Toughen him up and get him started on making more money than those bullies.

Q-grr

12/4/19 10:03pm

Salt Lake Valley

aaronmania

12/4/19 10:07pm

Unfortunately I watched as my Ute friends ridiculed BYU kids. Part of my change.

DraperCoug22

12/4/19 10:38pm

This is one reason I don't even think about uu sports.

Benfica1

12/4/19 11:09pm

This is something a yewt fan would post

franklyvulgar

12/4/19 10:01pm

Not true. This really happens and many of these kids haven't seen

SaintGeorgeYFan

12/4/19 10:02pm

That is so sad to think about. Some of these kids in elementary school have no

westsidecoug

12/4/19 10:04pm

Exactly my point.

SaintGeorgeYFan

12/4/19 10:06pm

And most shouldn't care. My kids don't care. But, if parents make a big deal

Benfica1

12/4/19 11:11pm

Well put

MatthiasPhunkHausen

12/5/19 5:14am

Wrong

puntersarepeople

12/5/19 7:20am

Go fishing and talk about overcoming adversity.

rtNelson

12/4/19 10:02pm

Go out and find an Oregon jersey

BYUBandfan

12/4/19 10:04pm

or USC

BYUBandfan

12/4/19 10:05pm

I will pray for your son by praying for a fall win in football.

Heath Squashwell

12/4/19 10:05pm

Is it to cold to go fishing?

lightmann

12/4/19 10:12pm

Sad--I feel for you and your son.

Goliath

12/4/19 10:12pm

Stay home and watch the 2006, 2007, and 2009 football dvd.

RalphWiggam

12/4/19 10:14pm

my 11 year old says the same thing. but we talked about being strong through adversity. I feel for him. I was the

Bob Vance

12/4/19 10:15pm

He needs to go. He needs to learn it doesn’t get any better.

Zaphod

12/4/19 10:18pm

I’d arm him with great insults for Utah fans

cougarblue

12/4/19 10:26pm

This is the right answer or teach him to ignore bullies. The best thing a kid can learn is to not let the actions

Soupie

12/4/19 10:31pm

Let him take the day off, I don’t blame him for wanting to avoid day 1 afterward

doubled1981

12/4/19 10:36pm

I don't blame the son for wanting to but I would blame a parent for letting him.

Soupie

12/4/19 10:37pm

Take him to a private gym and have him run wind sprints for an hour then work on

ArcticKat

12/4/19 10:40pm

Yuck! I’m so glad I don’t live in Utah.

IntelCougar

12/4/19 10:49pm

Make him go and then pick him up after 3 hours or so and go see a movie or

Cougforgood

12/4/19 10:56pm

I like that. Seems like you’re getting the

D.T. Survivor

12/5/19 1:55pm

My kids feel it a badge of honor to get razzed. Unfortunately, uu is winning too

Benfica1

12/4/19 11:07pm

Let him face life since he doesn’t have a choice. I’d say to my son keep telling

UownsBYU

12/4/19 11:24pm

You lost me with your Icon and name. You could start there if you

SaintGeorgeYFan

12/5/19 12:13am

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MatthiasPhunkHausen

12/5/19 4:29am

Let’s test your theory (given your board name): CONGRATULATIONS!!! (this is the

BoiseBlueCoug

12/5/19 7:17am

Kids will never handle adversity better than the parent. You set the bar so blow it off and

Soupie

12/4/19 11:25pm

Yep, ideal teaching moment

MatthiasPhunkHausen

12/5/19 5:11am

Move away from Utah, sounds terrible, nothing like that has happened to me.

TAMUCoug

12/5/19 3:56am

Just own it. Find a crappy piece of Ute gear and wear it in honor of a crappy

SalemBlue

12/5/19 4:39am

It's good for him to face some adversity.

a priori

12/5/19 6:02am

I feel like calling child protective services for raising your kid as a BYU fan

Backcountry

12/5/19 7:04am

Sometimes I feel like I’m doing my kids a disservice raising them as BYU, Utah

Nuke

12/5/19 8:05am

I put on my BYU tie this morning. That's my team through thick & thin. Even if too many games against Utah are the thin.

SpiffCoug

12/5/19 7:10am

Tell him, welcome to life. Deal with it. The more you show if bugs you, the worse it is. So sack up and go to school

macaroni

12/5/19 7:23am

You guys are really getting pathetic. It’s a

RedUte

12/5/19 7:27am

The Ute fans who yelled vile things at the BYU players need to hear this, too.

DraperCoug22

12/5/19 10:34am

Utah fans would never be vile

RedUte

12/5/19 12:15pm

This is a good way to teach your kids to have friends instead of enemies...

superdoo

12/5/19 7:41am

Yep. Just have him respond with, “yeah, that was a bummer. Utes have a good

Super Chicken

12/5/19 7:47am

I’ve had unm fans in the pit get in my face and were totally disarmed when I

LaserCoug

12/5/19 7:48am

Happy to report that he went to school with his BYU hoodie on!

aaronmania

12/5/19 8:22am

Good work Dad!

stoils

12/5/19 9:00am

Awesome!

ThomasQKelly

12/5/19 9:16am

Well done. Well done indeed.

MatthiasPhunkHausen

12/5/19 10:31am

Boom. If we dont endure the crap we wont appreciate the good times.

rad dawg

12/5/19 10:48am

I didn't want to come to work today...

CougarBuddy

12/5/19 9:09am

A kid in my son's (6) class was crying because he wore a BYU football uniform

Bluedarts

12/5/19 10:04am

Move from Utah.

HenderCoug

12/5/19 11:28am

I was a utah fan once...a long time ago

spit_76

12/5/19 1:25pm

Ute fans suck

BountifulCoug5

12/5/19 4:37pm

RE: Ute fans suck

longtimeYfan

12/5/19 6:03pm

“They had no use for Utah fans”

puntersarepeople

12/5/19 6:24pm

you tell em!

spit_76

12/5/19 8:08pm

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