invited to the party so he proactively excuses himself from going to the party or activity as a method of saving face?
Tom should call a press conference and say... “After much anguish and deliberation, BYU football has decided to forgo the 2020 football season as a protest against racism and inequality.”
What a great way for byu to get ahead of the inevitable obliterated schedule and score like 3,000 woke points.