We'd at least talk about it and pray about it together.

May 4, 2015
3:00:31pm

benny1982

If we ended up going with a home birth, it wouldn't be because she strong-armed me into it. It would be because I eventually agreed--together.

Fortunately, my wife hasn't been so inclined, so I haven't had to disagree with her.

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Yeah, telling women how to give birth is a great idea. Let me know how that

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:36pm

^^^Found one!^^^ So do you do the tub or an inflatable pool? Eat the placenta?

Epileptic Beagle

5/4/15 2:37pm

None of the above. But nice try.

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:38pm

Pickled placenta on crackers is unbelievable.

mulletYno

5/4/15 3:29pm

Why shouldn't the father get a say in how his child is brought into the world?

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:39pm

Is this a trick question?

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 2:41pm

Are you married?

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:42pm

Married with six children actually. This topic hits very close to home for me

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:46pm

So did your MIL win?

WDaddy

5/4/15 2:47pm

No she did not. My background is a little unique. My dad was the head guy for

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:52pm

"they agreed"? meaning your wife and your MIL?

El Pasco

5/4/15 2:56pm

sorry, "they" should be "we"

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:04pm

yeah, I imagine losing a baby could be a buzzkill to the whole "birthing

CougarTwins

5/4/15 2:57pm

Almost lost our first child. Probably would have if we tried doing it at home. I

db59840

5/4/15 3:26pm

How did your MIL take it?

Mister P

5/4/15 3:05pm

Once my wife explained that we arrived at the decision mutually she dropped the

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:14pm

When I passed a kidney stone, I probably asked my wife's

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 2:48pm

Epidural? Wife's decision. Home v. hospital? How could it not involve both?

benny1982

5/4/15 2:48pm

Try telling your wife how it is and let me know the result.

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:49pm

^^^Has fallen for the men are sperm donors lie.

Mister P

5/4/15 2:50pm

The thing is, we are absolutely a team on everything else. But birth? Nope.

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:53pm

So when it comes to the health of your child and safety during childbirth, you

Mister P

5/4/15 2:55pm

Mister P, Buddy . . . you're conflating too many different things

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 3:00pm

I think we are talking about two different things.

Mister P

5/4/15 3:03pm

Your 3rd sentence is why I will not be taking your advice on

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 2:53pm

And you equated a baby to a kidney stone...

benny1982

5/4/15 2:57pm

Please don't knock my collection . . . I've birthed each

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 3:04pm

And I'm assuming they're starting to look more like you with age?

benny1982

5/4/15 3:06pm

RE: Your 3rd sentence is why I will not be taking your advice on

Mister P

5/4/15 2:58pm

How else do you explain Utah baby names?

Mister P

5/4/15 2:56pm

Touche! Although, it's funny . . . I think

PlanoCougar

5/4/15 3:06pm

You poor soul.

benny1982

5/4/15 2:52pm

So... you've done that?

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:53pm

What? Discussed how our babies were going to be born? Yes.

benny1982

5/4/15 2:56pm

If she was dead set on a home birth, what would you do?

SandYFan

5/4/15 2:57pm

We'd at least talk about it and pray about it together.

benny1982

5/4/15 3:00pm

So you'd completely change your own opinion? Or you'd bite the bullet

SandYFan

5/4/15 3:03pm

I say "if" b/c you asked a hypothetical that won't happen.

benny1982

5/4/15 3:05pm

I agree with this mostly. We have big babies. Our smallest was just under

buhlcougar

5/4/15 2:59pm

Yeah, I was mostly conceding that it's her body, so she can decide whether she

benny1982

5/4/15 3:02pm

So how did it go with the MIL and your six births?

Mister P

5/4/15 2:48pm

I would have told her to pound sand. She sounds horrible.

Epileptic Beagle

5/4/15 2:57pm

You should have been there when we discussed vaccinations.

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:01pm

Go on...

benny1982

5/4/15 3:03pm

There's too much to talk about. I've thought about writing a book about my

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:16pm

What are they going to do?

SandYFan

5/4/15 3:19pm

The Church doesn't budge on vaccinations. They had to get them.

buhlcougar

5/4/15 3:30pm

That's gotta hurt their testimonies.

SandYFan

5/4/15 3:33pm

Because the father's not pushing a 7-pound baby out of his birth canal

SoCalCoug

5/4/15 2:56pm

All decision on birth ultimately should be made by the woman, IMO. But I think

SPORTS

5/4/15 2:56pm

epidural is a smaller thing. the biggest thing is that its in a hospital with a

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