HCBW's family and my own (3-4 hrs would be nice), but that's definitely not hers. Of course, it doesn't bother her that my parents have moved 4 hrs away . In the past, merely suggesting I'd take a job that would have us leaving hers (they live 5 miles away) brought a reaction that one would expect to witness at a funeral.

I will give her this...about three years there was a pretty high likelihood of securing a position with a company in CA. It took a few weeks for her to even start looking at houses on Zillow with me, but she did. I think we would've made the move, I wonder how hellish the first year would've been for her (and subsequently me) as she got used to it. Obviously the position didn't materialize but it was good to at least see some baby steps in that direction. Now that I'm actively looking for a change in career and company, I feel at least a better about my chances in getting her to leave Utah Valley should the search take us away.

I say move where the best opportunity is for your family and seriously consider all factors (especially the job/area where you can create your own family identity). Definitely don't move just to move. Cutting the nose off to spite the face can be painful.