If Fesi is a good coach, and I think he is, then he will get offers from other programs. Will you call Coach X dirty if they offer Fesi a promotion and more money or just Whittingham?
I'm pretty sure if Fesi got a promotion and decided to leave that Kalani would be very happy for him. I would for a friend that furthered their career even if it meant they left my team.
What is dirty about hiring coaches form another organization? BYU and Utah have been doing it for years from each other. BYU has done it from other institutions.
You seem to insinuate that the reason for hiring Fesi for Kyle would be to hurt BYU's program. Do you really believe that Kyle would purposely not hire the best guy for his program, and therefore hurt his program, just to try and hurt BYU? Sorry, that doesn't pass the sniff test to me.