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Jun 24, 2019
4:05:26pm
Thrill All-American
Wow...my best dating advice: do your thing....if you like to golf, golf. If
you like to hoop, hoop.

We do not have enough information with the original post to have a complete picture of the situation, but I'll give a few examples based on my observation of life:

-Girl #1-A good friend of my at the U was cute, a bit thick, kinda granola/tom-boyish combo (but neither too extreme). She was pretty active and was always playing basketball with the guys, hiking, etc. This girl got asked out more than any girl I knew and not just by anyone....dudes who played football for the Utes, who had plenty of other options were always hitting her up. We hung out in the same circles and I had a bit of a crush on her, but never acted on it....pretty sure I would have been friend-zoned.

-Girl #2 in my ward was objectively cuter than the girl above, but rarely dated. I knew several dudes that asked her out, but she had a tight group of friends and would always say something like,"Oh I have plans with the girls that night"....she often complained about no dates, but didn't really give dudes an option (e.g. I can't tonight, but how about Saturday) when she turned them down.

-Girl #3 my sister in law. When she put in effort, she is a legit 8 or 9/10 from a looks perspective, but about a 1/10 in the social skills department. Rarely asked out, rarely approached, would barely talk if she did get approached. She went on a date or two in high school and then married the first dude who hit her up at BYU-I. It's not quite one of those Rick Ocasek/Paulina Porizkova matches in terms of looks, but its definitely one of those couples where you wonder if he is either rich or a rock star (neither). They are very happy though.

As noted above, I don't know enough about the OP....I doubt any of us do, but generally speaking if a girl is cool and outgoing with guys, she will get asked out....my examples are obviously anecdotal, but I've seen this type of thing over and over. I would just recommend getting out there more and doing fun things that she enjoys and inviting guys along once in a while or meeting guys who enjoy those same things; basically change the tactics a bit if the current tactics are not getting results.
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