To buy her self things. We have personal budgets to spend on things we want which for me is more than enough, but too small for her. She wants new clothes which she never buys so she’s definitely deserves new clothes. We raised her budget and it made her feel better. I think I will try and talk her into raising her budget even more (although I had to convince her that it was ok. She felt bad we didn’t increase mine. But I haven’t spent it for 3 months and it rolls over)

Thank you. Your comment was very enlightening and spot on (I think)