you likely know nothing of. The only real solution, real, open communication, which despite what many parents think, is often non-existent. Kids learn early on being open & confessing certain things brings lectures, judgment & overreaction. So they never reveal their true thoughts, problems, struggles. No easy answers, but, I believe it parents could wait 48 hrs, think, before reacting or lecturing/disciplining, only compassion and understanding first 48, I think real communication would be achievable.

Toughest gig in the world no doubt. I just know such a large % of kids never truly have open & honest comms w parents, yet a high % of parents delude themselves and think they know everything and enjoy totally open comms w kids. It’s especially an issue in LDS culture & many stricter religious cultures. My post isnt necessarily referring to your situation, just comms w kids in general & how it often carries over even into grown kids comms w parents.