I had a student ask for a LOR. He should have asked if I would write him a positive LOR instead. Ultimately, I opted to

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Nov 30, 2022
11:46:31pm

doctorcoug All-American

Not write it at all instead of giving him a bad one.

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doctorcoug

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Appropriate or not when asking for LORs for grad school? I want to say thanks

Springirl

11/30/22 10:27pm

i wouldn't mention it until after they write it. What kind of grad school?

shimmy

11/30/22 10:28pm

English?

IGotAverageGifs

11/30/22 10:38pm

RE: English?

shimmy

11/30/22 10:42pm

Marriage and family therapy or social work - leaning towards MSW but undecided

Springirl

11/30/22 11:11pm

I wouldn’t do that. Maybe send one after the fact, but don’t say that up front.

AZPTCOUG

11/30/22 10:28pm

Up front makes it seem desperate. But might be a nice token after the fact

cougarfann888

11/30/22 10:29pm

Awesome, thank you all

Springirl

11/30/22 10:32pm

I will write one for $25😁

Stucoug83

11/30/22 10:34pm

Definitely do it after. I got them Starbucks gift cards or something like that

runitup590

11/30/22 10:36pm

Also, ask if they can write a good letter of recommendation for you

conflictedcoug

11/30/22 10:40pm

I had to write 12 LORs this semester and probably 50+ in the last 7 years.

Traveshamockery

11/30/22 10:41pm

Nope, don't do it. Profs know this is part of our job. We

Tortillero

11/30/22 10:44pm

No cash gifts at all. Bad form. Thank you note after the fact expressing sincere

BlooCoog

11/30/22 10:48pm

I like it when people ask me and offer to write it for me and have me edit as I

Trent

11/30/22 10:56pm

I had a student ask for a LOR. He should have asked if I would write him a positive LOR instead. Ultimately, I opted to

doctorcoug

11/30/22 11:46pm

Nice thought. But tacky. Don't do it.

Yes

12/1/22 12:11am

This ^^^

Mtbcoug

12/1/22 12:30am

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