This is sad to me. I’m not saying you’re bad people, far from that.

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Jan 15, 2022
10:34:46am

brazilcoug All-American

This is sad to me. I’m not saying you’re bad people, far from that.

It’s just sad to me that more and more women are okay with working. There’s been a shift since the feminist movement in the 60s/70s and now we’re at a point where it’s completely normal and fine for a woman to work and have someone else raise her young kids.

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Originally posted on Jan 15, 2022 at 10:34:46am

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brazilcoug

Previous username: brascoug
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Second jobs seem more common now. I have a second job, started so my wife didn’t

byu1

1/15/22 9:53am

With all due respect to the culture most of us grew up with (mom at home),

CrimsonCoug81

1/15/22 9:57am

And depending on what the childcare needs at home are, it's often good for the

ebv

1/15/22 10:03am

Ya. I mostly agree with this. Except in certain situations. I make more working

byu1

1/15/22 10:09am

Both spouses work, wait longer to have kids, and have fewer kids. These are tremendous advantages financially and is

Odysseus

1/15/22 10:10am

Can confirm. Early 30s, married, no kids yet. Double income is nice. Not worried

4thand19

1/15/22 10:15am

True but there are more important things than money

CaliforniaCougar22

1/15/22 11:04am

Agreed. People just need to realize there are trade-offs and then pick the life they want

Odysseus

1/15/22 11:18am

My wife earns close to what I do so it made sense for her to keep working plus

LaserCoug

1/15/22 10:17am

I’ll also add that my wife works from home and that our nanny is my oldest

LaserCoug

1/15/22 10:40am

I still have yet to hear from a stay at home mom or her husband say

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:23am

My wife and I do not regret both of us working.

Ted Lasso

1/15/22 10:27am

This is sad to me. I’m not saying you’re bad people, far from that.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:34am

Not every family can fit that "ideal model." I would have preferred a situation

Ted Lasso

1/15/22 10:39am

What is stopping a family in our society from having one parent stay at home?

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:44am

Why don’t you run a budget for a $50k gross income in the salt lake area.

valleus

1/15/22 10:51am

When men have the mentality as a sole provider, I guarantee they won’t

brazilcoug

1/15/22 11:17am

Who says they have to live in Salt Lake? There are much cheaper places to live

CaliforniaCougar22

1/15/22 11:18am

I’m not a teacher and my budget is still 50k/year on my own. Math doesn’t work.

DC15

1/15/22 12:41pm

Interesting story. When I was in my early to mid 30s I made

brazilcoug

1/15/22 1:57pm

I’m happy for you. And hope I can get there someday. I’ve increased my salary

DC15

1/15/22 2:22pm

If you had a wife that wanted to work, would you demand she stay home?

LiveCoug

1/15/22 8:03pm

Probably not.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 9:24pm

that's good

LiveCoug

1/15/22 9:27pm

Your opinion is condescending. Stop being sad for the good choices others make and just realize

CDV

1/15/22 10:41am

A woman working in today’s world will spend more time on average 1:1 with each kid than in 1950

molodyets

1/15/22 4:14pm

Best decision we ever made was my wife staying home. Would recommend every time.

stenso

1/15/22 10:28am

Every family out there has the ability to have a stay at home parent lifestyle.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:32am

Not every family.

Ted Lasso

1/15/22 10:40am

Same. And kids are older now so she’s working part time now as she wants and works with teen schedules.

1/15/22 11:15am

My wife always wanted to be a SAHM and once she had our first, she has. It’s

hansel

1/15/22 2:39pm

Your wife probably secretly hates you

Non-mo Coug

1/15/22 11:11am

I just asked her, she said she doesn’t.

stenso

1/15/22 11:22am

That's a weird relationship you have with Brazilcoug's wife but ok

Non-mo Coug

1/15/22 11:28am

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insanobueno

1/15/22 3:07pm

We would regret it if my wife didn’t have her job. That work?

insanobueno

1/15/22 3:08pm

My stay at home wife is going nuts. She needs a job. And that is ok.

LiveCoug

1/15/22 8:02pm

Stumbling upon a thread where brazilcoug is sharing strong opinion…

garyfan

1/15/22 8:16pm

My wise MBA program director would always say…don’t pay too much for your money

Squirt

1/15/22 10:38am

Why isn't this a problem for more people.

ReyOso

1/15/22 10:40am

And in the grand scheme of eternity..what value really does money have?

Squirt

1/15/22 10:43am

It doesn’t have any value. But a relationship with your kids has a ton of value.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 11:43am

Because we all want fancy things that didn't exist

The Accounting Barro

1/15/22 11:16am

Our consumption has gone through the roof. Median home size more than doubled

molodyets

1/15/22 4:17pm

We in the middle class exist to

Mitty

1/15/22 7:51pm

I just quit my 2nd Job teaching online at BYU-I

tjngirlz

1/15/22 12:55pm

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