Not every family can fit that "ideal model." I would have preferred a situation

Jan 15, 2022
10:39:57am

Ted Lasso Intervention Needed

where my wife stayed at home. Ours was not that situation. But for many good reasons it was the right thing for us.

I don't feel it was a mistake or even just unfortunate that she's worked. I feel it was what God wanted our family to do.

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Second jobs seem more common now. I have a second job, started so my wife didn’t

byu1

1/15/22 9:53am

With all due respect to the culture most of us grew up with (mom at home),

CrimsonCoug81

1/15/22 9:57am

And depending on what the childcare needs at home are, it's often good for the

ebv

1/15/22 10:03am

Ya. I mostly agree with this. Except in certain situations. I make more working

byu1

1/15/22 10:09am

Both spouses work, wait longer to have kids, and have fewer kids. These are tremendous advantages financially and is

Odysseus

1/15/22 10:10am

Can confirm. Early 30s, married, no kids yet. Double income is nice. Not worried

4thand19

1/15/22 10:15am

True but there are more important things than money

CaliforniaCougar22

1/15/22 11:04am

Agreed. People just need to realize there are trade-offs and then pick the life they want

Odysseus

1/15/22 11:18am

My wife earns close to what I do so it made sense for her to keep working plus

LaserCoug

1/15/22 10:17am

I’ll also add that my wife works from home and that our nanny is my oldest

LaserCoug

1/15/22 10:40am

I still have yet to hear from a stay at home mom or her husband say

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:23am

My wife and I do not regret both of us working.

Ted Lasso

1/15/22 10:27am

This is sad to me. I’m not saying you’re bad people, far from that.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:34am

Not every family can fit that "ideal model." I would have preferred a situation

Ted Lasso

1/15/22 10:39am

What is stopping a family in our society from having one parent stay at home?

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:44am

Why don’t you run a budget for a $50k gross income in the salt lake area.

valleus

1/15/22 10:51am

When men have the mentality as a sole provider, I guarantee they won’t

brazilcoug

1/15/22 11:17am

Who says they have to live in Salt Lake? There are much cheaper places to live

CaliforniaCougar22

1/15/22 11:18am

I’m not a teacher and my budget is still 50k/year on my own. Math doesn’t work.

DC15

1/15/22 12:41pm

Interesting story. When I was in my early to mid 30s I made

brazilcoug

1/15/22 1:57pm

I’m happy for you. And hope I can get there someday. I’ve increased my salary

DC15

1/15/22 2:22pm

If you had a wife that wanted to work, would you demand she stay home?

LiveCoug

1/15/22 8:03pm

Probably not.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 9:24pm

that's good

LiveCoug

1/15/22 9:27pm

Your opinion is condescending. Stop being sad for the good choices others make and just realize

CDV

1/15/22 10:41am

A woman working in today’s world will spend more time on average 1:1 with each kid than in 1950

molodyets

1/15/22 4:14pm

Best decision we ever made was my wife staying home. Would recommend every time.

stenso

1/15/22 10:28am

Every family out there has the ability to have a stay at home parent lifestyle.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 10:32am

Not every family.

Ted Lasso

1/15/22 10:40am

Same. And kids are older now so she’s working part time now as she wants and works with teen schedules.

Turnpike Lane

1/15/22 11:15am

My wife always wanted to be a SAHM and once she had our first, she has. It’s

hansel

1/15/22 2:39pm

Your wife probably secretly hates you

Non-mo Coug

1/15/22 11:11am

I just asked her, she said she doesn’t.

stenso

1/15/22 11:22am

That's a weird relationship you have with Brazilcoug's wife but ok

Non-mo Coug

1/15/22 11:28am

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insanobueno

1/15/22 3:07pm

We would regret it if my wife didn’t have her job. That work?

insanobueno

1/15/22 3:08pm

My stay at home wife is going nuts. She needs a job. And that is ok.

LiveCoug

1/15/22 8:02pm

Stumbling upon a thread where brazilcoug is sharing strong opinion…

garyfan

1/15/22 8:16pm

My wise MBA program director would always say…don’t pay too much for your money

Squirt

1/15/22 10:38am

Why isn't this a problem for more people.

ReyOso

1/15/22 10:40am

And in the grand scheme of eternity..what value really does money have?

Squirt

1/15/22 10:43am

It doesn’t have any value. But a relationship with your kids has a ton of value.

brazilcoug

1/15/22 11:43am

Because we all want fancy things that didn't exist

The Accounting Barro

1/15/22 11:16am

Our consumption has gone through the roof. Median home size more than doubled

molodyets

1/15/22 4:17pm

We in the middle class exist to

Mitty

1/15/22 7:51pm

I just quit my 2nd Job teaching online at BYU-I

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