And see if you can get him cited. He will not learn to fear consequences if the consequences are not personal.

He’s young enough it won’t hurt his future but even if it did it’s good to have real consequences for his actions.

I’m coming from a background of working with juvenile delinquency as a mental health provider. The one thing I have learned is absolute accountability is what’s needed.

Other things he needs to do is make restitution and I would track his behavior on a chart and I would have a rubric on a scale of 1-4 with a four exceeding expectations and 3 meeting expectations while 1 or 2 is not meeting expectations and he would be on lockdown until he meets expectations for a period of time.
I would also echo the idea of utilizing a therapist who can help you guys with him. I also understand the economic reality if you are the one paying for it.

This is the steps I would recommend but with the added qualifier of so much of this varies from kid to kid. Empathy, thinking about and learning trust and what his behavior does to other people. These are the lifelong lessons that need to be learned.

If he had never done anything in the past I would venture on the idea of leniency but this is a situation where kid gloves come off for a bit imo.