I had two friends who rushed into marriage after their respective wives passed.

Apr 19, 2019
11:35:13pm

Fallball Contributor

One got an annulment and one was divorced within a year. Like others have said, don't rush, for the sakes of all involved.

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When women fall in love with you

Twin Roots

4/19/19 11:13pm

I'd give it a little time if you're still feeling dead inside.

soupie

4/19/19 11:15pm

Can't imagine what you're going through but I did help my sister through it and she described

soupie

4/19/19 11:18pm

Dang man, that has to be hard. I’m sorry.

TriggerWarning

4/19/19 11:16pm

I think only those who have been through what you have can give you the advice

777

4/19/19 11:16pm

I would assume this is painfully but absolutely true

gww687

4/20/19 6:03am

I think I'd have to get to the point where I actually want to date

braddahmike

4/19/19 11:19pm

If you’re not ready don’t force it. Don’t settle. It will just make stuff harder

chitchatfan

4/19/19 11:19pm

That sucks. Sounds like you need some hobbies and friends

cougarnerd

4/19/19 11:21pm

If she was that perfect, just take your time.

Blue Ghost

4/19/19 11:25pm

Take plenty of time to heal and then have realistic expectations.

spugeddy24

4/19/19 11:27pm

I had two friends who rushed into marriage after their respective wives passed.

Fallball

4/19/19 11:35pm

If you settle, and it goes south, you're worse off than

BYURider

4/19/19 11:37pm

I don't know that it's a binary choice.

whitey1980

4/19/19 11:46pm

Date and interact so that you don’t leave the death

Archaea

4/20/19 12:01am

We are cheering for you

The Chief

4/20/19 12:02am

It's important to not compare. Remember you're

IceBlue

4/20/19 12:09am

Agreed. It won’t be the same kind of partnership and that’s ok

KSwiss

4/20/19 12:18am

Great post and point

Whip

4/20/19 10:15am

My advice, try dating a widow. She'll feel your pain and loss.

BostonCougar

4/20/19 12:25am

Great suggestion

Coug98

4/20/19 3:55am

I’ve been married for 37 years. My wife and I come from very different families. We didn’t really have that much...

Brisco

4/20/19 1:14am

Feel the same

gurt

4/20/19 4:45am

So sorry to hear.. any kids at home? My widow MIL dated fairly soon after with 2

cougfanz

4/20/19 5:03am

It’s ok to not worry about a companion, but...

Medute

4/20/19 7:45am

You re looking for a friend not ready for a wife

BYU Grounds

4/20/19 8:01am

Won't happen until you're ready, so just date until it happens.

Sooner Cougar

4/20/19 8:20am

I've been there. Literally.

displacedute

4/20/19 8:37am

Wow I can't even imagine. All the best brother.

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