leave away from me after previously granting it. They reasoned pretty callously that since my daughter had died, I was no longer eligible. It took a lot of fighting, negotiating, and go over peoples' heads to find a decision maker and get some of that time back.

All that to be said, if you have the opportunity to use it, do it. Even if you think it isn't a good fit for you and your family. Live child birth is a precious and miraculous thing.