I shared this quote a few weeks ago on here, and I feel it's appropriate here as well:
“To whom do we look, in days of grief and disaster, for help and consolation? … There are men and women who have suffered, and out of their experience in suffering they bring forth the riches of their sympathy and condolences as a blessing to those now in need. Could they do this had they not suffered themselves?”
-Orson Whitney
I'm sure they are very grateful you went.