I may be wrong but there seems reluctance on your part at least.

Apr 17, 2024
2:19:09pm

CMAC38 Contributor

Pray about it.
If the other siblings are doing well, they could be a very positive influence and support over the years. Both for their brother and you as parents.

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Soooo… we were just notified that the drug addict birth mom of my 5 girls just lost parental rights to

BeyondTheMark All-American

Apr 17, 1:44pm

your 5th girl or your five year old girl?

Cougarclaw

Apr 17, 1:47pm

we have 5 adopted daughters and one bio boy, this would be first adopted boy

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 1:51pm

That's a tough situation, but you could probably give him a better life than

TailgateU

Apr 17, 1:48pm

I'm too selfish to even do one. God bless you for your efforts regardless of

JAGA97

Apr 17, 1:48pm

Sacred decisions--praying for guidance for you. You're a good man.

LosAlcoug

Apr 17, 1:48pm

All I have to say is God bless you for your selfless sacrifices

ldssdl

Apr 17, 1:48pm

it's the sibling to one of your other kids?

SLC-Durham

Apr 17, 1:49pm

to 5 daughters, they have same bio mom as this boy- adopted as group

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 1:52pm

Was she taking drugs or alcohol while pregnant? If so, be very, very cautious as

BlooCoug

Apr 17, 1:50pm

assume so since she did with all the others, we’re very familiar with the issues-

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 1:53pm

Why has this woman been sterilized?

JAGA97

Apr 17, 1:57pm

You and your wife are amazing!

j20

Apr 18, 7:36am

True and so sad. Somebody needs to parent these kids but hard job

runnincoug

Apr 17, 1:53pm

IDK, but it reminds me of this Random Acts episode where the adult children told their adoptive parents that they just

Smack'sWife

Apr 17, 1:56pm

That's a huge decision. Sometimes it's okay to completely redo your life plan. "We must think of it as an adventure..."

Smack'sWife

Apr 17, 2:00pm

I personally would feel pulled to take him, especially where it's their biological brother and they want him too. You

RoaroftheCougartails

Apr 17, 2:00pm

God Bless you and Mrs. BeyondTheMark.

Lifi

Apr 17, 2:01pm

Would she have a shot at getting him back in the future?

Hobo

Apr 17, 2:05pm

No. Severed rights.

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 2:07pm

Severed parental rights means severed.

dratax

Apr 17, 2:10pm

RE: Soooo… we were just notified that the drug addict birth mom of my 5

Eddie

Apr 17, 2:05pm

You should totally do it but remember that parenting is a young man(and woman)'s game. I'm 52 with a 7 yo. It's hard

LaserCoug

Apr 17, 2:08pm

You gotta do it

EDthoracotomy

Apr 17, 2:09pm

Can you condition the adoption on the mom getting a hysterectomy?

Scratch

Apr 17, 2:10pm

She has no say or influence on the process at this point

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 2:11pm

Are any of the adopted daughters married, and if so would they be an option?

Penske Material

Apr 17, 2:12pm

One is, but she is just 20 and her husband is about to enter medical school

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 2:13pm

Was the child ever in a good foster home that wants to adopt?

Guppy

Apr 17, 2:13pm

There is a young couple without any connection offering. This would solely be to keep him

BeyondTheMark

Apr 17, 2:15pm

I may be wrong but there seems reluctance on your part at least.

CMAC38

Apr 17, 2:19pm

This is a direction I would strongly consider.

garyfan

Apr 17, 2:21pm

I think this is a good way to look at it ... who can give him the best life?

runnincoug

Apr 17, 2:23pm

Dang, you are a saint already. God bless in whatever direction you go.

Turd Ferguson

Apr 17, 2:14pm

do it, you won't regret it.

Bob Vance

Apr 17, 2:21pm

Yes, do it. Think of the long term, not short term. He needs your family.

cougar95

Apr 17, 2:31pm

I appreciate that sentiment but don't think this is fair to OP.

garyfan

Apr 17, 2:36pm

But one thing that the rest of us don't have is his siblings.

LaserCoug

Apr 17, 2:58pm

RE: But one thing that the rest of us don't have is his siblings.

garyfan

Apr 17, 3:07pm

I’m mid 50s and have toddlers. Giddy up. Life is very busy and the work is

Don Carlton

Apr 17, 3:08pm

Different Dad for the girls and the boy? Age between the youngest and him

SwanSong

Apr 17, 4:18pm

I adopted my youngest at 50

snowcat

Apr 17, 4:28pm

It's threads like this that make me realize how far I am from a Celestial mindset.

BlooGeek

Apr 17, 4:37pm

This may sound insensitive, but could you obtain guardianship without

BringYourUltimate

Apr 17, 6:58pm

I would assume that if this is going on...

Eddie

Apr 17, 8:43pm

Good point. Curious whether there would be a backdoor path to assuming control

BringYourUltimate

Apr 18, 3:59am

Having worked within the state system - it's a crapshoot.

Eddie

Apr 18, 1:39pm

In all honesty, if your daughters didn’t know about it, you could conceivably say no. Once they know about it, you would

LaserCoug

Apr 17, 7:26pm

Being a parent is the greatest service we will do. You are a champ!!

figonaccio

Apr 17, 7:41pm

God bless you for even considering. Not an easy choice at all.

Bin01015

Apr 17, 9:40pm

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