We can't whine about fathers not being in homes and then complain that they are soft when they are

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Is today’s generation soft for having 4-6 week paternity leave? I get some of

Cougs or die

May 8, 3:59pm

Should be longer

TCuz

May 8, 4:00pm

Paternity leave for dogs?

CSoul

May 8, 4:07pm

Yes and Yes

Mikey

May 8, 4:00pm

So they are soft, but you still would have taken it?

Cougs or die

May 8, 4:00pm

Of course

Mikey

May 8, 4:03pm

So you are also soft, you just didn’t have the option? Haha I say this truly

Cougs or die

May 8, 4:06pm

They aren't soft for taking it. They are soft because it exists

Mikey

May 8, 4:08pm

If it's there and you don't take it you're stooopid.

fldnstrm

May 8, 4:11pm

I know people that have 16 weeks. Sounds amazing.

JuicyJam

May 8, 4:00pm

Soft? Like as in wimpy or something because they have extra time with

AtomicHamster

May 8, 4:01pm

Yup. Was told today “back in my day I only had 3 days. You don’t need 3+ weeks

Cougs or die

May 8, 4:02pm

Wow.

AtomicHamster

May 8, 4:10pm

I don’t acknowledge needing extra time above and beyond what I already have to bond with the baby as a thing

JollyGreenGiant

May 8, 4:18pm

This was their statement. Not my thoughts or reasons behind why or why not

Cougs or die

May 8, 4:24pm

Would have definitely taken it.

530Coug

May 8, 4:02pm

I get 12. Why wouldn’t I take what’s allotted?

HingleMcCringleberry

May 8, 4:02pm

The point of 99% of employment is not to show how tough one is.

TheWanderer

May 8, 4:02pm

We can't whine about fathers not being in homes and then complain that they are soft when they are

RSL

May 8, 4:03pm

My company gave me 8. Now it's 12.

shoganai

May 8, 4:03pm

My wife is about to have 19 weeks. If anything our generation is smarter and has

SpecialKC

May 8, 4:03pm

I think smarter in the sense that home life has a huge impact on work life. If

Cougs or die

May 8, 4:05pm

Is it paid for? Also, depending on the job. I couldn't be away for that amount

md7Coug

May 8, 4:05pm

When my third child was born, we came home from the hospital and I dropped my wife off with

PROBcoug

May 8, 4:06pm

Absolutely would have taken it. They might be "softer" for expecting more time

vagabonder

May 8, 4:10pm

4-6 weeks is fine. I think beyond that is unneeded, but that's my opinion. I think the thing that

CSoul

May 8, 4:10pm

In Europe it’s something like 6 months for paternity, 12 months for maternity.

CallSign

May 8, 4:16pm

No one has kids in Europe. They basically have to beg people to have kids. Their businesses are also

CSoul

May 8, 4:20pm

It’s a reference point. Answer lies somewhere between the extremes.

CallSign

May 8, 4:41pm

We do 12 weeks paid maternity, 4 weeks paid paternity. More than that unpaid on a case by case basis.

CSoul

May 8, 4:44pm

U.S. is not the other extreme. Lots of countries have much worse workers' rights

Doogal McCougar

May 8, 4:46pm

Thank goodness we have better labor laws than Bangladesh! We have arrived!

TheWanderer

May 8, 4:48pm

Right, because we’re categorized and competing with the 3rd world.

CallSign

May 8, 6:11pm

It's not a question of whether one would take it if given the option. But there are significant business costs involved

Bob Vance

May 8, 4:19pm

Everything an employer gives an employee is bad for their bottom line.

TheWanderer

May 8, 4:46pm

Look into attachment research and you see this is a net positive

troutmaster13

May 8, 4:25pm

I highly doubt it's anything more than an emotional net positive. Kind of like when they said that there

Bob Vance

May 8, 4:40pm

I think paid maternity/paternity leave is great. I wish I would have had it.

Peter Venkman

May 8, 4:34pm

Im currently on week 4 of 16.

creameryon9th

May 8, 4:46pm

I get 12 mothers get 26

Cougz19

May 8, 4:49pm

I’d take whatever is given to me, but IMO 2-3 weeks is plenty for paternity. I think 4-6 weeks is plenty for maternity

KingDave

May 8, 5:38pm

I'm confused. You think a six-week-old doesn't need its mother?

quantum valeat

May 8, 8:47pm

Of course it does. As does a 6 month old, a 2 year old or a 5 year old or a 15 year old.

KingDave

May 8, 9:16pm

Nothing soft about it. Take it all and don’t apologize.

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