They do, however, have escalation superiority. You're playing their game and they make the rules.
Is kicking someone out of school for missing a couple sacrament meeting disproportionate? Of course, it would be if wasn't completely mythical. It never happens. You basically would have to stop going to Church for year or at least a semester, to get kicked from the school.
Frankly, I find your whole argument crazy because you're complaining about something that simply does not happen.