Clear about what it was and wasn't. You didn't profess to know when the wedding day was or even if it's been scheduled. We are all soooo anxious for something concrete and final that we attack when people are too optimistic and attack when people are too pessimistic.
It's kinda funny.
If BYU is the bride and the Big 12 is the groom... and the relationship has been somewhat disfunctional for years - why is it us, the extended family, that all needs some serious counseling???