We are commanded to love one another -- not one another's behavior (which has been my point all along). Indeed, the maxim love the sinner, not the sin is the exact same concept. Moreover, you can judge behavior and, in fact, EVERYONE judges behavior both out of necessity and out of our efforts to do what is right.

It is impossible to not judge behavior, if you are a moral agent. For this reason the Joseph Smith Translation clarifies that we are supposed to judge, but to be careful to have "righteous" judgment. YOU are judging in this very conversation. To the extent that you are assuming people believe certain ways, I think YOU are the one who is engaging in the wrong sorts of judgment. You assume that you know the hearts of the people you are criticizing, by saying that they "hate" people, despite their denials.

People who say we cannot and should not judge should be more careful. We must judge what acts are right and wrong. We must do so because it is integral to being a moral person and, it is impossible not to judge. Rather, we must not condemn and, it is along those lines that scriptures warn that the judgment with which we judge others, we will be judged as well.

I appreciate that you are concerned about homosexuals and the way they are treated. We need people to champion them. However, we also need you to not react so passionately that you swing too far the other way, make incorrect assumptions about others' motives and render yourself incapable of accurately understanding what others are saying.