I agree, but she has placed us in a tough spot

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Aug 11, 2022
12:48:26pm

MapCoug All-American

I agree, but she has placed us in a tough spot

We have had problems in the past where we "grounded" her and then reinstated privileges. She keeps falling back to her old ways. This most recent incident made us realize that we were giving her too much deference and needed to be a LOT more careful about what she had access to.

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MapCoug

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Suggestions needed for a technology contract for a child

MapCoug

8/10/22 10:33am

Before (or in addition to) a contract, start with a router that lets you block

8/10/22 10:48am

My current router allows for blocking specific sites

MapCoug

8/10/22 10:55am

You can do it a few ways without a router (for free).. OpenDNS Family Shield

TheLost

8/10/22 11:07am

I had bad luck in the past with OpenDNS, but its been a few years

MapCoug

8/10/22 11:10am

I haven't used OpenDNS, but have a 13yo, so I'll explore. Thx for the suggestion

8/10/22 11:17am

Do you know how to have OpenDNS apply to phone when off Wifi?

AggieWeekendCougar

8/10/22 11:24am

You cant.. thats when you use your cellular carriers parental tools.

TheLost

8/10/22 11:27am

We do, but it would be nice to manage all in one place.

AggieWeekendCougar

8/10/22 11:49am

Make sure it blocks VPNs as well.

Bin01015

8/11/22 9:36am

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Buffalo

8/10/22 10:51am

Of course she will hate it, but her alternative is no access

MapCoug

8/10/22 10:53am

Also, I don't know that I would use the word "formal."

MapCoug

8/10/22 10:55am

The book "Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager" has a lot of info on how to

8/10/22 10:55am

I am sure she will want you to have the same standard as her. Might be one thing

Bin01015

8/11/22 9:37am

I am already intending to give this contract to all my kids

MapCoug

8/11/22 12:46pm

Hang in there. It sounds like you are doing a great job. Teens can be so hard.

8/10/22 10:52am

Seems like she needs a detox from technology, which it sounds like you're doing.

KingDave

8/10/22 10:55am

We have, thankfully, always restricted her from facebook, instagram, TikTok

MapCoug

8/10/22 11:09am

Just know that no matter what filters or restrictions you put on her

fredy

8/10/22 11:33am

I know, but kids mess up

MapCoug

8/10/22 11:38am

I know very well how you feel

fredy

8/10/22 11:56am

I don't think the issue is technology or even opposition per say

semicool

8/10/22 11:41am

We're trying

MapCoug

8/10/22 12:39pm

You may want to consider family counselling.

sammyh72

8/10/22 4:43pm

As someone who used to be a youth, it is my experience that often times the more

Powerbait DPM

8/11/22 4:00am

I agree completely

semicool

8/11/22 4:04am

Key is follow the spirit and not your emotional intelligence.

Bin01015

8/11/22 9:39am

I agree, but she has placed us in a tough spot

MapCoug

8/11/22 12:48pm

Yes, but have you let her know that you understand it's her choice and agency?

semicool

8/11/22 1:06pm

She is 13

MapCoug

8/11/22 2:08pm

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