When I do it's one thing, but when you do it it's defensiveness.

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Aug 9, 2018
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Got a full-time offer today. Partner seems super concerned I will return to Utah

TCuz

8/9/18 10:12am

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Buffalo

8/9/18 10:13am

On this issue he's right. There is a perception that any Mormon plans to go back

garyfan

8/9/18 10:15am

You don't find it just a tad bit ironic that he's doing the same thing he is

CougarBacker

8/9/18 10:17am

If his only point is that people are lame when they try to live near family or

garyfan

8/9/18 10:19am

The irony is that he is from NJ and has returned to the area to live

Carnac

8/9/18 10:29am

How so?

CommodoreCoug

8/9/18 10:20am

Living close to where he grew up.

Ozymandias

8/9/18 10:21am

That's only part of the situation

CommodoreCoug

8/9/18 10:23am

Just seems like people are painting with a really broad brush

CougarBacker

8/9/18 10:33am

My parents live in Nevada. I guess my wife will be semi-close to home

TCuz

8/9/18 10:22am

He's taking a job in Utah for a few years to improve his resume and chances of

califcougar

8/9/18 10:23am

Well, some of the most prestigious law jobs are in NY, so not exactly the same.

Coach's Dad

8/9/18 10:31am

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Buffalo

8/9/18 10:17am

It isn't limited to Mormons. People tend to settle where they are comfortable...

kccougar

8/9/18 10:22am

Of course not. But it's an added layer for Mormons.

garyfan

8/9/18 10:26am

This is more or less what I was going for.

TCuz

8/9/18 10:27am

It'll be better though once you're gone

mobius

8/9/18 10:30am

Lots of unnecessary defensiveness when the topic of Utah comes up on CB.

garyfan

8/9/18 10:31am

I can't imagine why

kccougar

8/9/18 10:33am

Only because Mormons who didn't grow up in Utah love to bag on Utah so much.

benny1982

8/9/18 10:33am

There's some of that, for sure. But it seems that every time someone says Utah

garyfan

8/9/18 10:49am

It's one thing if someone wants to have a discussion on the quirks of Utah

mobius

8/9/18 11:00am

He made a legitimate point about Utah that shouldn't be offensive (even if you

garyfan

8/9/18 11:02am

Right. If I can not get upset at people bagging on New Jersey,

TCuz

8/9/18 11:05am

May not have been the main point, but any time you include incendiary

benny1982

8/9/18 11:12am

Way to go condescending. That's awesome.

garyfan

8/9/18 11:13am

Oh please. He was condescending with his OP, so why doesn't he get

benny1982

8/9/18 11:16am

But it's the second point that people are going to react to because he meant it

benny1982

8/9/18 11:11am

Are you from Utah? If so, you're kind of making my point.

garyfan

8/9/18 11:14am

Making your point by arguing that including an attack in a post where that

benny1982

8/9/18 11:17am

Also, I will concede that Utahns on here CAN be overly defensive. I just thought

benny1982

8/9/18 11:30am

I’m just saying you seem really defensive about this.

garyfan

8/9/18 12:59pm

Just defending my argument, like you did with yours.

benny1982

8/9/18 1:08pm

When I do it's one thing, but when you do it it's defensiveness.

garyfan

8/9/18 1:50pm

Has a lot to do with who and how it is posted. People get tired of the trolling...

kccougar

8/9/18 12:30pm

Especially for a dude from New Jersey

Junior Deputy

8/9/18 12:32pm

Agreed. My observation isn’t limited to this thread.

garyfan

8/9/18 12:57pm

Then we are all on the same page.

kccougar

8/9/18 12:58pm

When people have that attitude about Utah, it makes me really happy that they

CougarBacker

8/9/18 10:36am

Exactly...

CoachSpeak

8/9/18 1:12pm

Agreed

Kerbouchard

8/9/18 10:50am

But it's okay for you to be back in the area where you grew up. Got it 😉

oohYeah

8/9/18 10:14am

LOL you got an offer and you're complaining about Utahns making it hard?

CougarBacker

8/9/18 10:14am

RE: Got a full-time offer today. Partner seems super concerned I will return to

franklyvulgar

8/9/18 10:14am

Someone from Jersey bagging on Utahans - that's funny.

crack

8/9/18 10:14am

It's not to live next door to mom and dad, it's to live in a place that isn't...

COACHdrn

8/9/18 10:14am

Of course it's at least partly to live near family. And that's ok.

garyfan

8/9/18 10:16am

Ok....

pink22

8/9/18 10:44am

Cuz Utah's the only state for that

Kerbouchard

8/9/18 10:52am

Is it so hard to believe that people might actually like living in Utah for

CougarBacker

8/9/18 10:56am

Surprise, surprise...look who else crawls out of the woodwork

mobius

8/9/18 11:48am

You are from the New York area and are going home to near mom and dad...

Tokolosh

8/9/18 10:15am

Yep. It is not a Utah thing. Lots of people take a job and then move back home. It is just that people from out

Baron

8/9/18 10:17am

I had a real estate friend tell me that for every 3 people that move to AZ, 2 of

crack

8/9/18 10:19am

2 out of every 3 people who jump into a hot oven quickly jump out???

Tokolosh

8/9/18 10:21am

I find that hard to believe, given the fact that Arizona has been one of the

califcougar

8/9/18 10:32am

*lives next door to Mom and dad in new jersey

YIsForBrigham

8/9/18 10:17am

You're from new jersey? I'm sorry.

DJROSS

8/9/18 10:19am

There is a reason people want to be in Utah and not hell holes like NJ.

Backcountry

8/9/18 10:19am

I'm sorry your life sucks.

JAGA97

8/9/18 10:20am

Congratulations on the job!

RdF3

8/9/18 10:21am

RE: Got a full-time offer today. Partner seems super concerned I will return to

Florwood

8/9/18 10:21am

When I first read the OP, I didn't expect such an amazing thread to follow...

Avery

8/9/18 10:22am

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benny1982

8/9/18 10:23am

Someone from Jersey doesn't know what is like to have a place people actually want to move back to. Give him a break.

Baron

8/9/18 10:24am

RE: Got a full-time offer today. Partner seems super concerned I will return to Utah

Romex

8/9/18 10:28am

Lol

Real Men Wear Blue

8/9/18 1:37pm

Sorry, Utah is a much nicer place to live than New Jersy or even New York

Chet Donnelly

8/9/18 10:31am

I am sorry...your still a Bills fan.

Romex

8/9/18 10:34am

Went to a stake conference where Elder Perry condemned Utah-centrism among some

Gustav

8/9/18 10:36am

Well if the Church did more to make it easier for members who do so more members would

Baron

8/9/18 10:44am

And here we go......

TheHop

8/9/18 10:46am

RE: And here we go......

Gustav

8/9/18 11:11am

Boom!

Kerbouchard

8/9/18 10:54am

Is that the same L. Tom Perry who was born in Logan and Died in Salt Lake?

PGVikingDad

8/9/18 10:56am

He was my next door neighbor in college

Solomon Levi

8/9/18 10:59am

RE: Got a full-time offer today. Partner seems super concerned I will return to Utah

Turnpike Lane

8/9/18 10:48am

I must have missed the part where there is something wrong with living near the

PGVikingDad

8/9/18 10:51am

I took a leap of faith and moved away from the mothership last year....

beatnik

8/9/18 12:18pm

If your mother loved you you too would probably want to live by her.

Junior Deputy

8/9/18 10:53am

I had a similar issue

Solomon Levi

8/9/18 10:54am

There are many areas of the country much less likely to move away than Utah

CSoul

8/9/18 10:54am

Western PA is the same way. One of my co-workers the other day was talking about

Odysseus

8/9/18 12:25pm

I didn't move back to be close to family. I moved back to be closer to

zonacougar

8/9/18 11:25am

This is the main reason for me too.

COACHdrn

8/9/18 3:03pm

My employer stopped recruiting at BYU in large part because of the perception

chilango

8/9/18 11:47am

I doubt any of us care how it affects you...

CoachSpeak

8/9/18 12:50pm

Utah being one of the fastest growing states has little to do with people moving back.

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