But at what cost?

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Oct 18, 2017
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But at what cost?

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zuxvon

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The one thing that gets on my nerves about the #MeToo movement

CaliWG

10/18/17 11:07am

Baby steps in the right direction. Calling it hollow is harsh and uncaring.

cougarstolz

10/18/17 11:09am

girl likes it = romantic gesture. Girl doesn't like it = sexual harassment

Cougarclaw

10/18/17 11:10am

Shoot I've been married 15 years and still get signals wrong amirite.

Grit for Brains

10/18/17 11:11am

"Be brave! Stand up! It rings hollow if you don't name names!"

Linescratcher

10/18/17 11:12am

I'm not the one claiming bravery by joining #MeToo

CaliWG

10/18/17 11:15am

Your job or family relationships aren't on the line either.

cougarstolz

10/18/17 11:19am

I have empathy. But what can we do as a society if nothing is done about it?

CaliWG

10/18/17 11:43am

The hardest struggle for most people i've known who have suffered from sexual

freekarl

10/18/17 11:59am

For something like this awareness is a HUGE first step. This whole thread is a little embarrassing for you.

CDV

10/18/17 11:59am

Is sexual harassment and/or sexual assault a new phenomenon?

CaliWG

10/18/17 1:19pm

Here is another truth: Most women have to deal with men who do these things at some

CDV

10/18/17 3:54pm

Discounting their sincerity doesn't exactly show your empathy.

cougarstolz

10/18/17 12:01pm

No, but you can understand the value of anonymity & privacy

Linescratcher

10/18/17 11:24am

On account of the predators?!

SpiffCoug

10/18/17 11:46am

It's highly likely that keeping the perpetrator names anonymous protects the vic

cougarstolz

10/18/17 12:05pm

Swing and a miss.

Jeremy

10/18/17 11:17am

The gymnast's doctor is already in jail

WorfoSAUR

10/18/17 11:15am

I think the idea behind the #metoo movement is to increase awareness of the problem.

jdub

10/18/17 11:19am

Good point

CaliWG

10/18/17 11:24am

not quite the message I was trying to convey. In fact, in a very-unscientific survey of a few of my female friends

jdub

10/18/17 11:29am

They all DO have stalkers.

Cougarclaw

10/18/17 11:33am

I agree with you that a so-called "stalker" is in many cases NOT sexual harassment.

jdub

10/18/17 11:46am

same thing happened to my wife when we were dating.

Cougarclaw

10/18/17 11:55am

Try these on for size....

soupie

10/18/17 11:36am

I completely agree with you

CaliWG

10/18/17 11:56am

He wasn't married. If he was, yes, I may have said something. I did say something to my spouse

soupie

10/18/17 11:59am

Sorry, while those events are tragic. They cannot be compared to

Fatalplacebo

10/18/17 12:27pm

Absolutely and never compared them to rape. They were meant to illustrate some that may be considered

soupie

10/18/17 12:46pm

As someone who's been abused myself, it's not that easy.

vagabonder

10/18/17 11:25am

I really do empathize

CaliWG

10/18/17 11:34am

What would you say to your abusers?

Linescratcher

10/18/17 11:47am

A lot don't realize this can and does happen to men too. Maybe not as often OR

ByuImaginesDragons

10/18/17 9:16pm

I haven't followed it too closely so maybe this is already happening...

Cougar Insider

10/18/17 11:33am

You wanna make it as easy on yourself to judge which harassment merits empathy

Linescratcher

10/18/17 11:49am

LOL. Oh brother.

Cougar Insider

10/18/17 12:05pm

Just b/c we're not discussing it in the way you want to discuss it

Linescratcher

10/18/17 12:15pm

I've seen several on my facebook feed with brief (or not so brief) descriptions

freekarl

10/18/17 11:51am

I fail to see your point.

Cougar Insider

10/18/17 12:11pm

My point is that youve said you haven't followed it closely, and then gave three

freekarl

10/18/17 12:14pm

Fair point. Thank you.

Cougar Insider

10/18/17 12:19pm

Scrutinizing others' experiences is not the point.

Capricious Cougar

10/18/17 12:01pm

Apparently having a real discussion about it isn't either.

Cougar Insider

10/18/17 12:06pm

This my beef with it. Just saying two words and nothing else does little.

ByuImaginesDragons

10/18/17 9:19pm

Start a Me Please movement with hope to add to the Me Too later with names.Boom

Belboz

10/18/17 11:35am

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jokai_mor

10/18/17 11:45am

I'm no attorney, but seems like naming names might open you up to slander/libel

cougarmeister

10/18/17 12:00pm

Truth is always a defense to slander/libel

CaliWG

10/18/17 1:22pm

But at what cost?

zuxvon

10/18/17 1:23pm

Most of these cases will be her word against his

cougarmeister

10/18/17 9:36pm

My beef is that they don't give any info on how they handled it,

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