Everyone is different. I could NEVER live with or next to my Dad, or my in-laws.

May 22, 2019
11:39:08am

DoseOfReality Walk-on

But my Sister lives next door to my Dad, they even bought at the same time. It works for them, retired parents next door is helpful when you have kids.

But for me, never, ever, ever.

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DoseOfReality

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Not sure if CougarBoard is the right place for career advice, but here it is...

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 11:06am

Could you present it to your wife as a stepping stone to get ahead?

JollyGreenGiant

5/22/19 11:09am

That salary bump is very small for a move to Cali. The main issue will be if you

BeyondTheMark

5/22/19 11:10am

Not quite sure how you know your parents house is bigger than mine... or why

BoiseBlueCoug

5/22/19 11:11am

Was trying to add comic relief. It's just that we can live there comfortably.

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 11:13am

Sorry... I was joking as well. Assumed you meant to type that their house was

BoiseBlueCoug

5/22/19 11:14am

It worked, I liked it

Born2Fish

5/22/19 11:17am

so in addition to a 20k raise you'd have no mortgage or housing costs?

BYUFBDAD

5/22/19 11:11am

We'd either rent or just sell our current house. Parents still pay mortgage but

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 11:14am

My wife and I had to live with my dad for a couple months between our lease ending and our house being built. We didn’t

Nuke

5/22/19 11:26am

lol @ Disney+, it doesn't even launch for 6 months and it's already the go-to

Dissenter

5/22/19 12:44pm

You should pay a portion of mortgage as well. So you have siblings

kotacoug

5/22/19 1:50pm

Nope. I would never consider that

donnerstag

5/22/19 11:12am

"I'm in a dead-end position in a dead-end industry." What other opportunity is he going to wait for?

Grit for Brains

5/22/19 11:15am

A similar opportunity that doesn't lead to his parents' house

donnerstag

5/22/19 11:19am

Do it. Change can really create a lot of growth. It's not all about you or your

SnickSnack

5/22/19 11:18am

The max I could live with either my parents or my in-laws would be about 6

CougBlu

5/22/19 11:38am

I couldn’t do 6 weeks

kotacoug

5/22/19 1:52pm

I would make sure I worked out a rental deal with the parents minimum.

kotacoug

5/22/19 1:52pm

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Buffalo

5/22/19 11:12am

Boss being incompetent in my experience

PortlandCoug

5/22/19 11:14am

Indeed, the only time I’ve ever really considered leaving my job was due to boss

Colorado

5/22/19 11:26am

This would be a dealbreaker for me as well

Joel Tilton

5/22/19 1:05pm

Does your wife work? If not, she is stuck in the house with your parents all day

ochobeeguy

5/22/19 11:14am

I definitely see your desire for a change, but IMO, this isn't it

webster242

5/22/19 11:18am

Thank you for your take. We're blessed as member of the Church to have a

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

If it’s the best way to get out of a dead end job in a dead end industry

KSwiss

5/22/19 11:20am

I wouldn’t consider any job where I couldn’t afford to live there

KingDave

5/22/19 11:21am

I would like to hear aluf1990's take

Sandy Lyle

5/22/19 11:24am

"always better off for being tested from youth"

WJCougar

5/22/19 11:24am

Because it's true. Doesn't make them better, though. And Utah kids

Iman23

5/22/19 11:32am

I’m from outside Utah and think it’s a ridiculous take.

SWP

5/22/19 4:49pm

I would hate this all around.

Philosoraptor

5/22/19 11:25am

You always regret what you didn't do more than what you did do. Do you want to

DoseOfReality

5/22/19 11:27am

You have to move in with your parents? You can't get an apartment? I'm not sure taking a job where

The Dude Abides

5/22/19 11:27am

If you can't afford a place to live, don't accept the job. I don't

Vincent's Picks

5/22/19 11:29am

I'd take a look at this...

FatherOFive

5/22/19 11:32am

I think you have a great idea to live with parents. you can always move out if

Iman23

5/22/19 11:33am

My parents and my mil were here for three days last weekend for my daughter's

LiveCoug

5/22/19 11:36am

^ says the entire millenial generation

BlooGeek

5/22/19 2:36pm

Living with parents will be a big strain on your wife and marriage

darkcoug

5/22/19 11:34am

Everyone is different. I could NEVER live with or next to my Dad, or my in-laws.

DoseOfReality

5/22/19 11:39am

There is an enormous difference between living next door and living with

darkcoug

5/22/19 11:41am

First off, just how big is your parent’s house? Secondly, just how pretentious is the neighborhood?

Texas Hammer

5/22/19 11:37am

The devil is in the details

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

That’s big enough to keep everyone separate...are your parents the

kotacoug

5/22/19 2:06pm

They'd respect our privacy. I'd try to get our own washer/dryer hookups too

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 3:20pm

My Grandpa lived with us for 20 years.

The Count

5/22/19 11:58am

My wife loves and gets along great with my dad. No one gets along with mom...

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 1:09pm

Ok.... that’s more info.... how strained is the current relationship between

kotacoug

5/22/19 2:09pm

Sounds like you are surrendering your independence

WisconsinCoug

5/22/19 12:00pm

I don't like sand. Maybe I'm the only one.

Heath Squashwell

5/22/19 12:07pm

Anakin?

Philosoraptor

5/22/19 12:20pm

Obi Wan?!?

Heath Squashwell

5/22/19 1:04pm

Do what’s best for your career. You may live there for 5 years only and find a

BNcoug

5/22/19 12:16pm

Don’t do it

ataylor

5/22/19 12:56pm

Take the new job, but go into it with your eyes wide open.

cougarmeister

5/22/19 1:03pm

A couple of things:

Cheap Seats

5/22/19 1:13pm

I would never live with my parents or in California. Keep looking.

Throwaway59840

5/22/19 1:20pm

Never with my parents. Did it with my wife's for 8 months.

jvquarterback

5/22/19 2:51pm

are you allowed to play video games in their basement?

vabeachcoug

5/22/19 3:54pm

RE: Not sure if CougarBoard is the right place for career advice, but here it

nut-e-professor

5/22/19 4:35pm

The public school I went to is the one they'd go to, its public and amazing

Iki_Balam

5/22/19 9:36pm

Your mom treats you like a child, you won’t make enough to live independently,

SWP

5/22/19 4:44pm

So you can't get housing for what you pay currently plus $20K. Stay where u at.

TAMUCoug

5/22/19 4:59pm

DO IT. Providing for your family is greater than everything else.

valleus

5/22/19 7:04pm

Sounds like your quality of life will be better than most people who live in Ca

Sherlock

5/22/19 9:00pm

Will your folks promptly leave on a mission

kapcreations

5/22/19 9:09pm

I hope your mother isn't anything like George Costanza's mom. but that could be

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