as some would make it sound. I'm very sensitive to the idea that my kids will learn to lie, cheat and steal to circumvent restrictions I've put in place. I'm obviously more liberal in the access I've given my kids and maybe I've just lucked out and haven't had any serious issues. I like to think that at maybe I've built a level of trust with them. To be clear I'm not giving them unfiltered access to everything that's out there and there are certainly restrictions, but by giving them some freedom and privacy I haven't had them show any signs of deceit or lying and they know that they don't need to go behind my back for anything. To me that seems like a very fast way to erode my relationship with them and I want to maintain the open relationship that I have with all of them.