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Tonight we are starting “cry it out” to sleep train our 5-month old. 15 minutes in, and counting.
Virginia Ute
Ute Troll
1/8/20 6:38pm
Cry it out isn’t real evidence based iirc
spugeddy24
1/8/20 6:40pm
It's worked for many.
Cougarrr
1/8/20 6:41pm
Evidence based for what?
sgriff
1/8/20 6:41pm
In terms of being the most successful/beneficial, etc.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 6:43pm
It’s what we did with all our kids
IceBlueCoug
1/8/20 6:41pm
Plenty of parents do things that aren’t recommended. Spanking for example.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 6:42pm
It’s also not recommended to eat cookie dough but it’s freakin delicious
IceBlueCoug
1/8/20 7:20pm
Indeed
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:30pm
It is evidenced based for my sanity
YIsForBrigham
1/8/20 6:43pm
Touché.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 6:43pm
The pediatrician in the book I read had a lot of good studies backing it.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 6:44pm
It worked for me in a dog trial.
SuperTank
1/8/20 6:50pm
It's what my parents did with me and my siblings and we are all
Slim
1/8/20 6:51pm
Its cruel
Backcountry
1/8/20 6:56pm
Nah. The baby won't remember squat and will still love you in the morning
LiveCoug
1/8/20 6:58pm
I couldnt do it. I broke after like 30 minutes
Backcountry
1/8/20 7:00pm
Understood, but it ain't cruel to the baby.
LiveCoug
1/8/20 7:15pm
Debatable.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:19pm
Not really. The baby won't remember. Cry it out doesn't mean always ignoring
LiveCoug
1/8/20 7:21pm
The lack of being able to remember something does not make it not cruel
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:31pm
That may be the worst comparison in the history of CB. Letting a child cry it
Dread Pirate Westley
1/8/20 8:18pm
It’s crystal clear you didn’t actually read my post. Congrats man.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 8:39pm
I read every word of your post. It's a terrible take.
Dread Pirate Westley
1/8/20 8:45pm
I consider it cruel to not have your kids on a regular sleeping
Coach's Dad
1/8/20 7:39pm
Not being favor of “cry it out” doesn’t mean not teaching your kids to sleep
spugeddy24
1/8/20 8:40pm
That what doesn’t kill you....
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 7:00pm
Worked for all my kids. Research be darned
Adwight
1/8/20 7:12pm
That’s what anti-vax parents say
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:13pm
You think those two things are similar?
credible HULK
1/8/20 7:18pm
No. The ignoring research part is similar.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:20pm
There’s a big difference between getting my kid to sleep
Adwight
1/8/20 7:54pm
RE: There’s a big difference between getting my kid to sleep
credible HULK
1/8/20 8:31pm
Ugh. I hate having new borns in the house. I basically don’t like kids until they’re 1+.
sgriff
1/8/20 6:41pm
It’s our first one. I’d agree with ya so far.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 6:45pm
To me it’s age 4-5. Not a fan below that age.
cougfanz
1/8/20 7:15pm
If they keep it up for longer than 10 minutes they’re not ready IMO.
MormonThug
1/8/20 6:43pm
Hang in there. First night is horrible. 2nd night is 90% better.
game.blouses
1/8/20 6:45pm
How long are we talking cry wise? My wife and I made bets on like 1-2 hours.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 6:48pm
My three kids probably cried for a solid hour the first night, 30 minutes the...
RazorCoug
1/8/20 7:14pm
Looks like we got out with 45 minutes tonight.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 7:39pm
Both my daughters were 45 minutes (ish) the first night.
AZPTCOUG
1/8/20 8:03pm
That makes feel reassured to hear. Hopefully our kid isn’t some stubborn child who breaks the mold.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 8:16pm
Middle of the night could be long again tonight.
game.blouses
1/8/20 8:19pm
Good to hear they catch on quickly.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 8:23pm
Basically exactly how it went with our three kids too
SurreyDad
1/8/20 8:21pm
It sucks but oh so worth it.
LiveCoug
1/8/20 6:45pm
Are you crying or the baby?
TCuz
1/8/20 6:45pm
Lol both. Right now I’m stress eating a cheesecake
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 6:46pm
Good luck. I'll leave it at that.
lightmann
1/8/20 6:46pm
Stay strong. We put our babies on the opposite end of the house.
panguitch
1/8/20 6:49pm
I'd cry all night too if my dad was a yewt.
7H3F3RN
1/8/20 6:52pm
LOL touché.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 6:59pm
Stay strong. It will pay off in the end. We had a few rough nights,
CBer
1/8/20 6:58pm
I changed my approach after reading “How Children Succeed”
Medute
1/8/20 7:04pm
Elevated cortisol levels? Is that why Slim can't gain weight?
TNT
1/8/20 7:05pm
Attachment is a big deal and forms a lot in our youth.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:06pm
The "cry it out" method is neglectful?
Endocoug
1/8/20 7:08pm
It seriously takes 3 days. We’re not talking a childhood full of trauma
CommodoreCoug
1/8/20 7:12pm
Exactly. You just gotta give them tons of love and attention during the day.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 7:40pm
Ha, see if it only takes 3 days. When we did it, that wasn’t the case
Medute
1/8/20 7:49pm
Well we have been using the “go get them” method the last month.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 8:18pm
Never took longer than 3 days for any of our kids
CommodoreCoug
1/8/20 8:19pm
Same here.
CBer
1/8/20 9:10pm
I’m no expert, either, but it depends on the age and what kind of neglect.
mobomanjoe
1/8/20 7:13pm
This is not what that book is talking about...those studies are done on
valleus
1/8/20 8:09pm
Yes, but it made me think about what happens physiologically with crying
Medute
1/8/20 8:16pm
I agree with you...every 30 minutes id go in and give a hug, but then
valleus
1/8/20 9:05pm
A noise machine and a microwavable stuffed animal really helped our daughter.
harrY
1/8/20 7:04pm
So, SO worth it
CommodoreCoug
1/8/20 7:06pm
You got this. Stay strong. It’s glorious once they adapt...
m0resn0w
1/8/20 7:06pm
Thanks man!
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 7:40pm
Agreed, all 6 kids trained this way and all are independent sleepers no
DownFX
1/8/20 8:00pm
Ah...I remember those days...don’t miss them, just remember them 😉
Lifi
1/8/20 7:08pm
sorry, but the first few nights it could be an hour or more. BUT
Cougarclaw
1/8/20 7:26pm
Babies don’t manipulate. It’s their only form of communication.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 7:34pm
I was mostly being facetious but isn't getting people to do what you want
Cougarclaw
1/8/20 7:45pm
Babies absolutely manipulate. That kid clinging to his mother's ankle when she
panguitch
1/8/20 9:22pm
Toddler vs baby is different. And infants crying is not manipulating.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 9:37pm
My 5 month old baby fake coughs to get our attention.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 9:41pm
Sounds like a yewt.
spugeddy24
1/8/20 11:15pm
Yeah, that's what they want you to think. Them with their innocent smiles.
panguitch
1/8/20 9:56pm
I appreciate the encouragement!
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 7:42pm
Last week we had to resleep train ours. First night was four hrs of crying. I
maxpowers
1/8/20 7:37pm
This week he’s gone to bed immediately. So a few bad nights, but now all good
maxpowers
1/8/20 7:37pm
Dang you’re saying it doesn’t end when they’re toddlers?!
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 7:43pm
They forget sometimes
Wagon
1/8/20 7:55pm
I kinda messed up with him. He got used to me lying down next to him while
maxpowers
1/8/20 7:56pm
We Went to New York for two weeks for work and our 2 year old regressed.
BYUinTX
1/8/20 7:58pm
We swear by sleep training. One of the best gifts you can give your kids is
Wagon
1/8/20 7:58pm
Oh my gosh don’t even get me started on the MIL. She helps us a lot and thinks we are monsters
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 8:21pm
We tried that once with our first and he cried so hard he threw up every where.
Nuke
1/8/20 8:04pm
NO YOU DON'T GO BACK!!!!! LET THEM CRY THEMSELVES TO SLEEPING
BYU Grounds
1/8/20 8:06pm
Different strokes. With the one we just did, we’d go in after 5 min, then 15,
maxpowers
1/8/20 8:22pm
This is what we had been doing. But it was causing a lot of middle of the night needs.
Virginia Ute
1/8/20 8:27pm
We did this too. We would touch them on the belly and talk to them.
AZPTCOUG
1/8/20 8:34pm
I never said it would be easy, I only said it would be worth it
valleus
1/8/20 8:10pm
My favorite verse in the Bible. Thank you Jesus.
AZPTCOUG
1/8/20 8:53pm
Stick with it- we had our first and didn't figure out sleep training until he
byusage
1/8/20 10:54pm
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