loved one who wasn’t killed in war. How does it hurt or affect you? It doesn’t, so what does it harm? I traveled down to visit my BF’s grave. He died fighting his own war with his health, not in war between countries. I understand what the holiday is for. But I’m not hurting anyone by remembering and visiting him. If someone has an issue with that, well tough cookies said the kitty (this is cb I had to substitute 😂), they’ll just have to feel bothered.