Problem is that there is only one who is really making decisions

Jul 16, 2020
9:03:11am

LaserCoug Truly Addicted User

And she is starting to cut off other family members who may disagree with her. I'm sure she is overwhelmed and isn't doing it out of malice but it seems the worst thing for the situation is to have no other family members supporting them.

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Elderly care question. Wife's grandparents are in their early 90s and still

LaserCoug

7/16/20 8:55am

I’m wife you. I wouldn’t do a nursing home under almost any circumstance

cougfanz

7/16/20 8:58am

Problem is that there is only one who is really making decisions

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:03am

I agree with u- More than reasonable to speak with them Then

cougfanz

7/16/20 9:08am

As a grandchild, I'd stay out of it until someone asked my opinion. This is a decision that needs to be made

IceBlueCoug

7/16/20 9:01am

Yep as a doc the worse was when some granddaughter from 3 states away

cougfanz

7/16/20 9:04am

Not sure on that. Grandkids in their late 40s have both resources and energy

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:05am

That's good, but, grandchildren should stay on the sidelines until asked to help.

IceBlueCoug

7/16/20 9:16am

Yup. We should let the grownups do the hard stuff.

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:29am

Where are these grandparents?

kapcreations

7/16/20 9:10am

Just north of Logan

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:16am

Unless your wife is willing to move to Logan and become the primary caregiver, she should probably defer

Sea Chicken

7/16/20 9:14am

I agree that the burden has been unfairly placed on mostly one person. But

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:19am

You’re assuming assisted living is so horrible. Thats false and not helpful.

Hank Rearden

7/16/20 9:45am

It depends on the facility. I watched both my grandfathers die in assisted

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:53am

"if not for my job". With no conflicts, everyone else would also do it.

cujo22

7/16/20 10:50am

My wife can do her job from anywhere. If she hadn't been stupid and married me,

LaserCoug

7/16/20 4:26pm

My friend runs a small assisted living facility in Hyde Park

kapcreations

7/16/20 9:19am

Funny, I literally just looked at their website this morning. Glad to hear an

LaserCoug

7/16/20 9:24am

Ask for Xochithl Frankman. She goes by “Sochie”

kapcreations

7/16/20 9:29am

I would suggest calling and speaking with that.

BNcoug

7/16/20 9:57am

Since it's my wife's family I'll let her do that. I think a lot of the family

LaserCoug

7/16/20 10:10am

If the house is in good shape and they’re happy there, I’d see if there is money

BNcoug

7/16/20 1:50pm

My father passed away 6 months ago.

Hobo

7/16/20 10:14am

That sounds like a decent way to go. Sorry about your loss

LaserCoug

7/16/20 10:22am

My in-laws and her sister and husband

Freeloader

7/16/20 4:00pm

Tough question, what normally happens is one kid takes on most of work.

Blue for Life

7/16/20 10:54am

I'm starting this conversation with my siblings on how to care for our aging

LaserCoug

7/16/20 11:00am

I drove through your town on Sunday, was going to stop to visit, but didn't want

Blue for Life

7/16/20 11:02am

One of the keys is that major contributors need to be compensated.

Hobo

7/16/20 11:49am

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