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Apr 18, 2021
4:02:47pm

Pretorian All-American

If people play the “don’t you trust me card” when it comes to husband wife

Finances they are hiding something... plane and simple. Why not have two sets of eyes on a complex thing like family finance? When it comes to finance it is about transparency, being informed/aware, and finally being responsible.

Oh also, two separate bank accounts is just a near guarantee for future problems/ divorce why have two accounts if your love and trust each other?

That should a pre marriage discussion

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Pretorian

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Time

PSA: all fathers should teach their daughters about finances and investing

NottherealJWill

4/18/21 3:52pm

For whatever reason it seems girls are just way less interested.

JuicyJam

4/18/21 3:53pm

It’s one of my biggest pet peeves and one of the main things I want to teach

cougfanz

4/18/21 3:55pm

Changing the expectation that they’ll be a stay at home mom?

brazilcoug

4/18/21 4:07pm

Already inserting a gif in response to your own post? Nice innovation!

garyfan

4/18/21 4:20pm

I think his point was to teach his girls that they need

The Pope

4/18/21 4:32pm

with COL increasing this goal is becoming more and more less likely.

Mayor of Cougartown

4/19/21 10:53am

I'm curious about the eye roll too.

Eddie

4/19/21 11:32am

My wife is more involved in the family finance than I. We joke that if she died,

JohnnyC

4/18/21 3:58pm

Same for us. My wife is definitely the CFO of the family. I guess I'm more involved in the retirement planning (since

dilbert

4/18/21 4:11pm

That's my situation too. I know her salary and my salary.

Belboz

4/18/21 5:10pm

I've tried to involve my wife in the finances. She is totally not interested.

Y-Zag

4/18/21 4:00pm

Just keep showing her, that’s kinda a CYA thing for a future misunderstanding

Pretorian

4/18/21 4:03pm

Same boat. Has zero idea what we pay for insurance, etc. Frustrating

TicoBrown

4/18/21 4:03pm

She’ll care if the money goes away

Memmo

4/18/21 4:13pm

Create a net worth spreadsheet. You will want to do one for yourself anyway

yahtzee

4/18/21 4:15pm

I've been doing that for years. Tried to show it to her, not interested.

Y-Zag

4/18/21 5:33pm

Hard to understand.

yahtzee

4/18/21 7:22pm

I've wondered if it is she just doesn't understand money or numbers.

Y-Zag

4/18/21 7:31pm

If I remember right there is a pretty good persona finance 101 course from BYU

yahtzee

4/18/21 8:13pm

Thanks

Y-Zag

4/18/21 8:15pm

I think this is it. I admit I haven't watched them but I think they were

yahtzee

4/18/21 8:27pm

Same here. I’ve tried. There is no interest whatsoever.

BYUCLA

4/18/21 4:15pm

My wife is totally uninterested. I keep fanatically detailed records of

hansel

4/18/21 4:16pm

This is exactly my wife too. I finally just wrote her instructions of what to do

The_Minister

4/18/21 4:58pm

Opened the door for your own murder. Now she knows what you’ve got. Keep an eye

pink22

4/18/21 5:01pm

At least write it all down. When my dad died my mom had no clue and was like

zonacougar

4/18/21 4:20pm

Going through the personal finance self reliance class helped us.

mottman

4/18/21 4:30pm

If people play the “don’t you trust me card” when it comes to husband wife

Pretorian

4/18/21 4:02pm

We have 3. Are we doomed?

LaserCoug

4/18/21 5:27pm

Why 3? There are so many things to keep track of...

Pretorian

4/18/21 8:47pm

One main account for family funds and 2 other accounts for individual fun

LaserCoug

4/18/21 9:25pm

Best of luck to you

Pretorian

4/19/21 5:20am

We have had each of our girls take the church's personal finance class while in HS. It's not perfect, but it is good

unctoothman

4/18/21 4:04pm

But, then they cant spend with wreckless abandon if they understand their $$$

machete

4/18/21 4:16pm

RE: PSA: all fathers should teach their daughters about finances and investing

Don_Juan_El_Guapo

4/18/21 4:17pm

I'm the breadwinner and my wife pays the bills in our family

UVCoug

4/18/21 4:20pm

Same. Early on decided it was best if she paid basic bills so she at least

BR549

4/18/21 4:33pm

Mine writes the checks too. And is clueless as to finances.

Plato

4/18/21 4:43pm

What are these things that you call checks? Part of our issue is that so much

Cheap Seats

4/18/21 5:00pm

Wife is not interested in learning to use bill pay. Or looking at bank balance.

Plato

4/18/21 5:03pm

Get them a job, teach them to work, have them see taxes and make them pay for stuff and they figure out a lot of that.

4/18/21 4:27pm

Exactly. It's so important to have them work so they can learn the value of a dollar.

dilbert

4/18/21 4:42pm

Get them a job?? How about make them get their own job?

pink22

4/18/21 4:45pm

At 15 or 16, they’ll need some assistance. But yeah they gotta do that work.

4/18/21 6:19pm

My wife asks all the time, I talk to her about it explain it, and she tells

BYUFootballisBack

4/18/21 4:28pm

My wife is kind of the same. Wants to know but doesn’t really. Doesn’t get it

pink22

4/18/21 4:42pm

And some husbands get paid and have no idea where their money goes. Wife does

pink22

4/18/21 4:36pm

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