And resist the urge to jump in and "save him" if he is on the path to fail.

Mar 1, 2021
8:54:03am

BYUtka Truly Addicted User

Unless it will result in much bigger and hard to deal with problems later.
A 0 on one homework assignment to help him learn is probably acceptable. A 0 on a final exam, probably want to step in before it is too late.

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My son is so immature, it's driving me nuts. He turns 15 this year and I swear

Windward_Coug

3/1/21 8:39am

Have you had him tested for ADHD?

barnacle

3/1/21 8:41am

Take away his phone and video games

Chester Copperpot

3/1/21 8:41am

No phone and we severely restrict video game time, like only one hour a day.

Windward_Coug

3/1/21 9:00am

An hour a day is a lot. I wouldn't call that "severely restricting"

zerigke

3/1/21 9:23am

Well he has to do all of his jobs and chores, but then that makes it so we're

Windward_Coug

3/1/21 9:30am

Video games were having a really negative impact on my son who just turned 8.

zerigke

3/1/21 9:43am

You could also take away the video games and tell him he can earn it back

zerigke

3/1/21 9:45am

"parents did almost nothing for me". I found that interesting. I often see

O Gaucho

3/1/21 8:42am

I grew up making my own lunches, getting myself up, making sure my bags were packed and ready to go. I started doing my

scall

3/1/21 8:47am

Definitely a challenge to find the right balance of too little vs. too much.

O Gaucho

3/1/21 8:51am

If it's that bad maybe get him checked for ADHD

deejo

3/1/21 8:45am

Which I may have

deejo

3/1/21 8:46am

Similar to my 16 yr old

Hobo

3/1/21 8:46am

Take away the video games.

WP17

3/1/21 8:47am

Is he only acting that way because you create an environment where he doesn't

BYUtka

3/1/21 8:50am

Exactly this. Then give clearly related punishments if he fails.

WP17

3/1/21 8:51am

And resist the urge to jump in and "save him" if he is on the path to fail.

BYUtka

3/1/21 8:54am

Best punishments are natural consequences or closely related

AFewThoughts

3/1/21 9:05pm

Just had this conversation with a parent yesterday who was feeling bad that

Blue Ridge

3/1/21 9:05am

Just super immature, like I still have to remind him every, single, day to flush

Windward_Coug

3/1/21 9:18am

We are all wired so differently.

ditch

3/1/21 12:02pm

We are trying this, but with school absences now a risk of being fined

BYUHgrad

3/1/21 9:59am

Not Even Close

3/1/21 9:00am

is he dealing with depression? lots of kids have struggled this last year

v1k0u6

3/1/21 9:08am

His immaturity must come from your wife. Don’t you think?

Bullrider

3/1/21 9:37am

Sent you a boardmail

CMAC38

3/1/21 9:48am

Just described my almost 14 year old. Basically have accepted the fact that

BYUHgrad

3/1/21 9:56am

Every system is perfectly designed to obtain the results it gets.

StalwartBraveTrue

3/1/21 2:11pm

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juantoad

3/1/21 2:39pm

My now 19 year old brother is/was the same way. Lazy academically, gamer etc.

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3/2/21 5:01am

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