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rcbyufan
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It's only harmful because people let it be harmful. Words only have the power
we give them.
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How should I have reacted?
Garn
10/21/19 10:51pm
That one of those times it’s perfectly acceptable to
The Dude Abides
10/21/19 11:00pm
I agree but add that he makes a point that the officials sucked
travelcoug
10/22/19 4:09am
That’s why I simply boo or yell “you suck ref”
idcougarfan
10/22/19 5:08am
I think the "suck" part of that term has nothing to do with suckling babies
Carnac
10/22/19 5:55am
One might argue that saying "the refs suck" could be even more offensive
Acorn
10/22/19 6:10am
This is a good reminder that words may mean something different
Carnac
10/22/19 7:19am
^this
rggee
10/22/19 7:23am
it is interesting. because even the word dumb is referring to a person with a
ColonelMustard
10/22/19 5:38pm
I think it's interesting the power people give to words, emphasis on give
rcbyufan
10/22/19 5:49pm
'Dumb' 'lame' 'stupid' etc
rggee
10/22/19 10:01pm
Reminds me of sitting at an away game at Airforce.
ditch
10/22/19 12:16pm
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Jizosh
10/22/19 8:16am
not sure it'll make a difference until they have a similar experience to yours
byujdmba
10/21/19 11:01pm
Great thought. It really is true that unless
Uncle Bluto
10/21/19 11:35pm
One can have empathy, without experience.
TheHop
10/22/19 8:15am
As a health care provided in a field that often works with those with
akmewg
10/21/19 11:43pm
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rivercitycoug
10/21/19 11:53pm
The above thoughts are far better than mine,
Betruewhiteandblue
10/22/19 12:10am
While not right, people have their free agency. It wasn't directed at you or...
Big McLargeHuge
10/22/19 12:45am
I tell my kids all the time no matter what you are people will mock you and
Osteotome
10/22/19 1:22am
Let it go
Jericho
10/22/19 1:58am
I just quietly remind them that what they said wasn't appropriate, and suggest
Nogi-oshi
10/22/19 4:45am
He who is offended when no offense is intended is a fool.
lilpenny
10/22/19 5:43am
Reminds me of the Spencer W. Kimball story about the orderly.
game.blouses
10/22/19 6:41am
If President Kimball was under anesthesia, how did he even hear the orderly?
UberDeek
10/23/19 12:13am
He shouldn’t be mad but I don’t see any reason for him to not say, “I don’t like
puntersarepeople
10/22/19 7:23am
There is much much worse yelled at a football venue. Just let it go.
rggee
10/22/19 7:25am
That’s what I would do
puntersarepeople
10/22/19 7:26am
That doesn’t make sense to me. Offense was intended.
Cougar Jazz Fan
10/22/19 9:30am
But not meant to offend the OP’s daughter.
lilpenny
10/23/19 4:43am
That still doesn’t make sense to me. The term was used with the intent to offend
Cougar Jazz Fan
10/23/19 11:51pm
It wasn't a term of endearment towrd the ref.
Archaea
10/23/19 4:17pm
That's not accurate. There are words that are offensive and shouldn't be used
palangi
10/22/19 9:36am
what an ignorant comment.
Goliath
10/22/19 9:38am
Because it's extremely offensive and can be damaging to the most vulnerable
Machiavelli
10/22/19 9:43am
It's his response because he uses the word and this is his rationalization.
ditch
10/22/19 12:12pm
Wrong
lilpenny
10/23/19 4:36am
Great.
ditch
10/23/19 2:52pm
He was intending to offend disabled people, so I don't think it works here.
Memmo
10/22/19 10:25am
How do you know that? How do you know the intents of his heart?
lilpenny
10/23/19 4:39am
If your anger at someone causes you to compare them to another person, then
Memmo
10/23/19 4:05pm
That's a dumb saying in this instance.
ditch
10/22/19 11:37am
He who is offended even when offense is intended should consider
supercoco
10/22/19 2:02pm
I think you missed the point of the OP.
Cougar Jazz Fan
10/22/19 4:10pm
I was responding more to the thought about taking offense than the OP
supercoco
10/22/19 6:55pm
He who thinks the OP was about taking offense... Is using his imagination
Goliath
10/22/19 3:00pm
So if I am not black or Jewish and someone in a crowd at BYU sports yells ethnic
Archaea
10/23/19 4:16pm
That must be frustrating
Carnac
10/22/19 5:53am
Do others call your kid retarded?
Acorn
10/22/19 6:06am
You should have yelled at him, "WATCH YOUR MOUTH!" Have him take a look around
demon_llama
10/22/19 6:06am
I disagree with many here. I think you'd be fine to kindly say something.
game.blouses
10/22/19 6:37am
Saying nothing was the correct response
byujag
10/22/19 7:04am
Agreed. It is am emotional moment when these guys are angry
Carnac
10/22/19 7:14am
Saying nothing is fine, but saying hey man can you not say that is 100% ok too
palangi
10/22/19 9:40am
So there is only one CORRECT response.
Archaea
10/23/19 4:18pm
I used to use that word as a teenager all the time. It was just a word. I have
rggee
10/22/19 7:13am
I think it’s appropriate to say something but don’t beat yourself up for not
D.T. Survivor
10/22/19 7:40am
My opinion: you probably did the right thing.
jkccoug
10/22/19 7:43am
I think you should have started a fight,
farmboy
10/22/19 7:43am
I have 2 mentally handicapped brothers, so I'm right there too. I generally let
BlueTooth
10/22/19 7:58am
“You refs are demonstrating unacceptable job performance!”
Croweater
10/22/19 7:59am
I feel u. Close fam w/ disabilities and it's bothersome to hear such language
zerome4sooners
10/22/19 8:02am
It is unfortunate, but it is just a word.
Benfica1
10/22/19 8:20am
Should have told him not to say “freaking” in front of your kids?
PJMort
10/22/19 8:28am
No doubt it's frustrating, but we all choose what to be offended by.
ReggaeCoug
10/22/19 9:08am
You don’t have to take offense to stand up for those around you.
SlantRoute
10/22/19 9:34am
I think you did the right thing letting it go. People grow and learn at their
CougarTailDevourer
10/22/19 9:50am
You were fine. Don’t second guess yourself.
Dr MoBYU
10/22/19 10:08am
Sticks and Stones - best wisdom my Grandfather ever taught me.
OGSuperfan
10/22/19 10:24am
Your Grandpa was a freaking..... GENIUS!
PJMort
10/22/19 10:32am
Let it go?I dont get offended if they say"the refs are blind" its a eupham
CarolinaCoug
10/22/19 1:21pm
Don’t listen to the clowns on here that encourage you to be offended when
Gerald-DeGroot
10/23/19 3:41am
No one encouraged that. Encouraging to correct =/= encouraging to be offended
game.blouses
10/23/19 5:43am
Yeah, but it's more fun to pretend that it was about being offended. That way
Goliath
10/23/19 6:12am
What is there to correct?
CarolinaCoug
10/23/19 3:55pm
Ignorant remarks that are more harmful than many know
game.blouses
10/23/19 5:17pm
It's only harmful because people let it be harmful. Words only have the power
rcbyufan
10/23/19 5:21pm
Why don't you talk to people who have kids with mental disabilities and ask
Goliath
10/23/19 5:48pm
I have. Frankly, I'm more diplomatic about it when speaking face to face but
rcbyufan
10/23/19 6:44pm
Well goodness sakes, they must all feel so much better and enlightened to have
Goliath
10/23/19 7:13pm
I apologize if I upset you. That was not my intention.
rcbyufan
10/23/19 9:33pm
If people choose to ignore it, fine. But for those ignoring it without under-
Archaea
10/23/19 11:57pm
What you said is true and I agree.
game.blouses
10/23/19 6:02pm
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