They make their own choices. Why should it bother me they choose to break certain commitments? Are we allowed to put our values on others now?
I don’t care one bit of a student at BYU who I have no connection to drinks. If they put others in harms way, I care. Whether they are at BYU or not.
As for my moral code, well, that’s mine. Not anyone else’s and I can’t expect others to live by my moral code.