At home, I'd suggest finding a way to be present around him where you're not

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Jan 30, 2023
9:30:39pm

Thrilliland Walk-on

At home, I'd suggest finding a way to be present around him where you're not

directly discussing how things are at school. Maybe find a video game or other activity that the two of you enjoy.

This podcast is generally geared towards parents with younger kids, but this episode might be helpful:

Good Inside with Dr. Becky - When Your Kid Is Rejected

Your child tells you, "No one played with me on the playground today." You find out they’re the only one not invited to a sleepover. They come home one day and say, “My best friend has a new best friend.” What do we do in these moments? In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky follows-up on her...

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9ZNU4weFdXWg/episode/YWVjZmRiZTktNjZkYy00ZWQ5LWI5NmYtYjQ5YmE1N2NhNjA1?ep=14

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Time

Child struggling with school

Null

1/30/23 9:05pm

How old?

cougarfann888

1/30/23 9:06pm

11

Null

1/30/23 9:07pm

Is that elementary? Or Jr high?

1/30/23 9:10pm

Elementary

Null

1/30/23 9:37pm

RE: Child struggling with school

DavisCoCoug

1/30/23 9:07pm

See if your school counselor has a friendshipping group. See if you can make some behind the scenes

Soupie

1/30/23 9:08pm

I would say plan some activities and invite other kids that may be more shy

cougarfann888

1/30/23 9:08pm

Nickelcade

Pro Logic

1/30/23 9:57pm

Is there a school Club that you can put him in?

Tesla Coug

1/30/23 9:13pm

Try going to school and take his favorite food to and have lunch with him.

Coug Dude

1/30/23 9:13pm

^^^excellent advice!!

FulhamUte

1/30/23 9:18pm

My wife would pick up our daughter everyday at high school, drive her to Wendy’s, then back to school while she ate...

Brisco

1/30/23 9:23pm

Hat tip to Mrs. Brisco. Great mom.

YSMACK

1/30/23 9:34pm

I went and played at recess with two of my kids last fall and it was crazy how

TempeCoug

1/30/23 9:44pm

Northern Utah?

Zedhead

1/30/23 9:16pm

We had the same issue…

FulhamUte

1/30/23 9:17pm

Have you been able to get him to share why? What comes to my mind (entirely empirically based on working with kids that

unctoothman

1/30/23 9:21pm

I have an 11 year old son who is currently in the exact same situation. Here are a few things we are doing:

CrimWalCoug

1/30/23 9:22pm

This is a great approach & exactly what it means to work things behind the scenes.

Soupie

1/30/23 9:45pm

At my school we would "hook him up" with a friend. Someone with similar interest

Stucoug83

1/30/23 9:27pm

You will get lots of suggestions on how to deal with this.

WizeGuise

1/30/23 9:27pm

Yep. This phenomenon is called "imaginary audience." We all think others are watching & critiquing us but

Soupie

1/30/23 9:47pm

This is kinda cheesy but at my kids elementary school they put

DataMouth

1/30/23 9:30pm

At home, I'd suggest finding a way to be present around him where you're not

Thrilliland

1/30/23 9:30pm

This is why school choice is important. Parents can find a fit that works.

777

1/30/23 9:38pm

Soupie, explain the eyeroll. This is a perfect example of why school choice

777

1/30/23 9:51pm

You're using a kid's social struggles that can happen in ANY school to score political points. Pathetic.

Soupie

1/30/23 9:59pm

What politics? He should be looking into other educational options that best fit

777

1/30/23 10:09pm

We all read your posts in favor of HB215.

Soupie

1/30/23 10:16pm

Who cares? What does it have to do with this thread? He asked for advice

777

1/30/23 10:23pm

Didn't occur to me until saw your post and it struck a tone of self-serving political points. Maybe I'm wrong but

Soupie

1/30/23 10:34pm

But that's exactly my point. You've been arguing this with me in other

777

1/30/23 10:41pm

It's an emoji. Get over yourself.

Soupie

1/30/23 10:48pm

Sure, just wanted to clarify you were offended by the term "school choice" and

777

1/31/23 12:03am

My son didn’t fit in at first and I switched him to a new school setting.

Don Carlton

1/30/23 9:41pm

He'll make his first lifelong friend soon. I was this kid.

AltTabbins

1/30/23 9:58pm

My son went thru this. We always made sure we had activities with family

1/30/23 10:12pm

Sometimes kids need explicit instruction on how to interact socially. Some just don’t figure it out and need to be

Spiff

1/30/23 10:49pm

My son was similar and is on the spectrum. His social life slowly gained

Traveshamockery

1/30/23 10:52pm

Thanks for all of your suggestions, they are helpful

Null

1/31/23 7:12am

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