than yes you do have to study all the time. And you have to learn how to manage your time well in order to do very well and make a little bit of time for the other things you mention.
And whether you believe it or not some of us actually do study instead of messing around all the time.
When I commented on how much free time it seemed other students had my dad said he too remembered leaving the HBLL and seeing kids playing frisbee etc and wondered how they had time for that. But he said all the time he spent studying was worth it.

My bro got into UCLA dental school which then gave him the opportunity to get into Harvard med school for oral surgery residency/ getting his MD. He had to learn how to manage his time to do that along with church callings and dating (which often were study dates). Wouldn’t of happened had a job been taking any extra time he did have. He studied about 8 hours a day in the library. Went early Saturday mornings etc as well.

My second bro was going a different route but when reading his patriarchal blessing felt dentistry was where he could make a difference. He STRUGGLED in school. Applied to dental school 3 times before getting on the waiting list and then accepted to the worst and most expensive school. But he knew that was the right path. No way he gets in if he’s working a job as well.

Sure a lot of geniuses go to BYU. I knew one. The guy never studied in ochem and aced everything. I bet he had time to mess around, date, be elder’s quorum President, take 18 credits and have a full time job. But not all of us can.

All this being said, I have mad respect for people who dont Have the option. Those who have to work to support themselves through school. I have mad respect for them having to juggle a full time job and school.

But saying that the only way for someone to learn how to manage their time and learn a good work ethic is by having a job in college seems off. If college is your full time job it works the same way.

And if parents have the means and want to spend it on their kids education instead of spending it on themselves I don’t see it as a bad thing.

I have a couple of disabilities. I spent a few years longer than everyone else in school...and that was without even having a job. But had aspirations to go to PA school...I believed I could if I improved in areas of my dissabilities. I LIVED in the library. Was the only way I could keep up. I had to use tutors etc as well. I had to learn time management and a hard work ethic just like a job would have to teach me.

I studied in the library 10 hours a day except on Friday and Saturdays when it was more around 5-7 or so. In the end I ended up being too burnt out of school since I was in and out for 10 years nor did I think I could make it through PA school.
So I went straight into the work force after graduating last December.

Oh I forgot about the fact that with the time to study hard in school you can earn academic scholarships. I was able to earn them as I know one of my siblings did. Never asked my other ones about it.

I’m not married yet but my career path alone probably won’t be enough to help my kids out as much as my parents could. So they’ll probably have to work and that is just fine. as you pointed out it will be good for them. But there isn’t just one way to do things.