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11 yo daughter showing recent signs of depression…any advice
Iman23
May 13, 7:57am
Does she have a phone?
Chester Copperpot
May 13, 8:01am
This was my question.
squints
May 13, 8:12am
More specifically, access to social media?
Mister P
May 13, 8:14am
Gabb phone for talk/text. No social but does game a little bit. Screens are
Iman23
May 13, 8:21am
Maybe try to subtly ask who she watches on YouTube.
Mister P
May 13, 8:24am
Good. I have three daughters ages 19, 17 and 14. All of them around that age
Chester Copperpot
May 13, 9:50am
Find a good therapist for her.
crimedog
May 13, 8:02am
This is conventional wisdom that has been refuted in Abigail Shriers latest book
Idacoug
May 13, 8:34am
The more you talk about a problem the more it stays present - short term
SwanSong
May 13, 8:45am
Here is the book. Bad therapy. Why the kids aren’t growing up.
Idacoug
May 13, 9:17am
Wow, both of those sources are totally suspect.
theonick
May 13, 10:07am
You should read the book. It’s incredibly well researched and data driven
gocougs719
May 13, 10:23am
I’ve read it and I agree with many premises
theonick
May 13, 10:54am
Yeah I wouldn’t agree in any absolute statement about therapy
gocougs719
May 13, 1:27pm
So the idea is to ignore or burry them?
theonick
May 14, 2:17pm
I think you’re making an argument against any point I made
gocougs719
May 15, 5:34pm
Bad therapists do make it worse. But good ones help.
crimedog
May 13, 10:55am
I think that’s the issue. It’s not wholly good or bad
gocougs719
May 13, 1:24pm
It’s just a different animal but not totally
theonick
May 14, 2:26pm
Therapy has been the biggest help with my depression.
North Cat Coug
May 13, 8:02am
My 9 year old is pretty similar. We had a really rough year losing
Adwight
May 13, 8:05am
She has a hard time making friends. But is very friendly with other kids and is
Iman23
May 13, 8:24am
Getting on a sports team is a great way to make new friends. Things like track
BYUtka
May 13, 8:30am
Good advice. Thanks. She has played basketball and volleyball but isn’t doing
Iman23
May 13, 8:32am
Also exercise is beneficial for improving mood. Maybe a good team (of friends)
niqmadu
May 13, 9:44am
Theater/drama can be problematic. If she is artistic, I would encourage
Oatmeal
May 13, 8:55am
I honestly don't like this attitude. Some of the very best kids I teach/work
Adwight
May 13, 9:20am
There are absolutely great kids in Theatre... That is true. It also attracts a
BYUtka
May 13, 9:23am
I would argue that there are other activities as well. Baseball, IMO, is the
Adwight
May 13, 10:52am
Two things worth reading
CalY
May 13, 8:05am
Get her to a therapist. Reading stuff with her might help her understand that it’s ok to feel how she’s feeling, but it
RealTaysomHill
May 13, 8:09am
Is she involved in any sports? I'm no therapist but with my kids it felt
RC Vikings
May 13, 8:14am
With my kids, times they are less physically active the depression is stronger,
BYUtka
May 13, 8:22am
I believe studies show sports for girls is even more beneficial than for boys.
Mister P
May 13, 8:22am
Activity and connection are huge
theonick
May 13, 11:22am
Check out the book The Optimistic Child
B_lemarque
May 13, 8:24am
Thank you!
Iman23
May 13, 8:26am
You can also look at the PHQ-9
B_lemarque
May 13, 9:36am
Is there any family history of mental health challenges?
Mises
May 13, 8:33am
Talk about it with her in relative detail. Ask if she ever feel like self harm
NYC and Japan
May 13, 8:42am
It’s a challenge. You always start with the basics.
troutmaster13
May 13, 8:48am
One thing I always did with our seven kids - monthly father’s or mother’s
BYU I Bleed Blue
May 13, 8:54am
This is good stuff. Agree for anyone with kids.
Acorn
May 13, 9:12am
Lift weights and Vitamin D. Worked for one of my sons. But I know treating depression is different for every kid.
WDaddy
May 13, 9:12am
My oldest daughter was my biggest challenge. She attempted suicide 3 times
AF_Puma
May 13, 9:58am
Start taking her on daddy/daughter dates.
steakandtaters
May 13, 10:12am
I’ve had many conversations with my daughter about her depression and anxiety.
Jfly1975
May 13, 10:29am
May not help, but worked for our daughter and low-cost worth a try
JupiterJones
May 13, 10:34am
Keep loving her and make sure she hears it. Go on a monthly daddy daughter date
Magneto
May 13, 10:34am
I hope Iman23’s daughter can overcome, figure out, or successfully navigate
Alan Schaefer
May 13, 11:04am
6th grade was the worst for our daughter. Find out how your daughter's friend...
oilman
May 13, 11:12am
Physical activity, physical activity, physical activity. If she doesn't have a
birds
May 14, 11:00am
And more sun on skin also.
CougarMandias
May 14, 11:52am
This. I couldn’t be more agreeing and believing in this. I truly believe that
Alan Schaefer
May 14, 11:43pm
^ y'all are my people
birds
May 15, 2:16pm
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